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Clapton wrote this about his 4-year-old son Conor, who died when he fell out of a 53rd floor window in the apartment where his mother was staying in New York City. Clapton had one other child at the time: His daughter Ruth was born in 1987, the year after Conor was born.
Clapton wrote this with Will Jennings, who has written many famous songs from movies, including "Up Where We Belong" from
An Officer And A Gentleman and "
My Heart Will Go On" from
Titanic. Jennings wrote the lyrics to many of Steve Winwood's hits and has also written with B.B. King, Roy Orbison, The Crusaders, Peter Wolf and many others. He told us:
"Eric and I were engaged to write a song for a movie called
Rush. We wrote a song called 'Help Me Up' for the end of the movie... then Eric saw another place in the movie for a song and he said to me, 'I want to write a song about my boy.' Eric had the first verse of the song written, which, to me, is all the song, but he wanted me to write the rest of the verse lines and the release ('Time can bring you down, time can bend your knees...'), even though I told him that it was so personal he should write everything himself. He told me that he had admired the work I did with Steve Winwood and finally there was nothing else but do to as he requested, despite the sensitivity of the subject. This is a song so personal and so sad that it is unique in my experience of writing songs."
Clapton knew of Jennings from his work with Steve Winwood. Says Jennings: "Eric and Steve go back, they made that one record together years ago (with Blind Faith), and Eric followed all our writing from Arc Of A Diver, because he always kept up with Steve. We wrote an album called Talking Back To The Night that Steve and I did, and then the third album we wrote was the Back In The High Life album. So Eric knew about that, and he knew about the Crusaders things and the B.B. King things. He had said he always wanted to get together and write, so he called me for the film. Russ Titelman, who had produced the Back In The High Life album, was involved in the film, and that was the other connection."
Jennings revised the lyrics as Clapton and his band worked on it in the studio. They had no idea it would be a huge hit. Says Jennings, "It was furthest through from my mind, really. I was so involved in the sensitivity of the subject, and I didn't even think about that. I'm passionate about all the songs I write, but it was just in another place entirely, another category." (Check out our
interview with Will Jennings.)
Conor's mother is actress Lory Del Santo. She and Clapton began dating while he was going through a divorce with his wife Pattie.
After Conor's death, Clapton appeared in Public Service Announcements urging parents to put up gates to keep their children away from danger.
This won Grammys in 1993 for Record Of The Year, Song Of The Year, and Best Male Pop Vocal. Clapton was nominated for 9 Grammys that year and won 6.
Clapton played an acoustic version on his 1992 MTV
Unplugged special. The performance was made into a very successful album, featuring acoustic versions of "
Layla" and "Before You Accuse Me." The acoustic version was used a the B-side of the acoustic "Layla" single in 1992.
Clapton's 1986 album August is named for the month Conor was born.
In March 2004, Eric stopped playing this and "My Father's Eyes" in concert. While touring Japan in November and December 2003, he discovered he could no longer perform them. Said Clapton: "I didn't feel the loss anymore, which is so much a part of performing those songs. I really have to connect with he feelings that were there when I wrote them. They're kind of gone and I really don't want them to come back, particularly. My life is different now. They probably just need a rest and maybe I'll introduce them for a much more detached point of view." (thanks, harvey - jackson, MI)
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this is such a sad and beautiful song. it makes me think of my great grandpa, he passed about a month ago, and my little cousin melanie that dies when she was only one year old, of cancer. i cant really remember melanie because we were the same age though. it really sadwhen family passes, and really sad when there just babys.
(im only 13)
We sang this in music class, I cried everytime we sang it. Bless your little boy. I want everyone and you, to know that when I grow up I want to be an FBI agent, so i can help children that have been kiddnapped and taken from their families. Your son, was a beautiful boy, who didnt deserve anything less then what all of us do. You are a GREAT man. Dont let anyone tell you and your boy otherwise.
Throughout his musical career, Eric Clapton was often referred to by the lofty and divine title of "God." He is too modest a man to have ever taken that moniker seriously, but there is no doubt about his admitted connection to God, and how his surrender to God is what put him on the path towards redemption.
"Tears in Heaven" is a hauntingly beautiful, tender and touching song, written by a beautiful man. "My Father's Eyes" was a touching tribute too, in its connection between Connor, and his own father, whom he never knew. Eric Clapton - you've given this world a rare gift ...the gift of yourself - and for that we shall all be eternally grateful.
Rest in peace, Sam...
your son will always be remembered, as will my cousin in my heart.
RIP sam i love you
Thanks again!!
Kelly was my little princess....This song memorilizes her, and reconnects my heart to hers anytime I hear it.
I love you princess with all my heart!
I get tears in my eyes whenever I hear it and always think about my grandpa when I listen to it <3
-Silimusa,Miscoi American Samoa
p.s. Ruth was actually born before Connor in 1985.
another sad song is The Circus Left Town (songthing like that) thats another song about his son. Great song.
powerful and sentimental. but i think people should stop hounding EC to play this song anymore. why keep reminding him of the pain he's over?
i agree with daryl...
The only funeral I ever attended, they played this song.