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Dilemma by Nelly (featuring Kelly Rowland )

Album: NellyvilleReleased: 2002Charted:
  • Featuring Kelly Rowland from Destiny's Child, this song is about a girl who thinks about another guy even when she's with her boyfriend (thus the "Dilemma"). Nelly and Kelly act this out in the video, but also in the song, as they sing to each other by name.
  • This was the first big release for Kelly Rowland away from her group, Destiny's Child. Nelly was an established star and hot on the charts, but Rowland was not widely known on her own. This was a good (and very safe) way to introduce her as a solo artist and get her ready for her first album.
  • The chorus is based on Patti LaBelle's 1983 song, "Love, Need And Want You." LaBelle is in the video.
  • Nelly heard a tune written by his friend Bam (Antoine Macon), and wanted to include it on his album. Bam recalls: "We sat down at the keyboard and just messed around. Then we added some drums and Nelly began to write some words." It was almost finished when Bam put on the Patti LaBelle album I'm In Love Again and started humming one of the tracks, "Love, Need And Want You." Nelly was not familiar with the song but liked it and insisted they use the "I love you" hook. When Nelly heard the finished track, he said, "I wanted to do something that nobody would think of, and that's why I bought in Kelly Rowland. I thought she would be better on her own as opposed to Destiny's Child." (Quotes from 1000 UK #1 Hits by Jon Kutner and Spencer Leigh.)
  • This prompted rumors that Nelly and Kelly were dating. They maintained that they were simply good friends.
  • At the 2003 Grammy Awards, Nelly performed his hit "Hot In Herre," and was then joined by Rowland, who sang this with him. This won the award for Best Rap/Sung Collaboration. It was nominated for Record of the Year, but lost to "Don't Know Why" by Norah Jones.
  • This spent 10 weeks at the top of the American chart in 2 runs. It paused for a couple of weeks to allow in recent American Idol winner Kelly Clarkson's "A Moment Like This."
  • The duo recorded an update of this song titled "Gone," which was a track on Nelly's 2010 album, 5.0.
  • Nelly recalled collaborating with Kelly Rowland on this song in a 2010 interview with XXL magazine: "I did the Nellyville album in Miami, recorded the songs and all that [short pause] and we kind of felt like we needed a couple more songs on there. So, the last two songs that we put on Nellyville were 'Hot In Herre' and 'Dilemma.' At this time we had been on tour with the girls from Destiny's Child so we had become, fairly close to the girls and all that and I was like, 'What do you think about Kelly?' but at this time she was dating someone very close to me, I should say that, and we was like, 'Yo, fam, this would hot.' So you know we got her in the studio and s--t was magic."
  • On the Hot 100 dated August 17, 2002, "Dilemma" replaced "Hot in Herre" at #1, making Nelly the fifth artist in that chart's history to succeed himself in pole position, following The Beatles, Boyz II Men, Puff Daddy and Ja Rule.
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Comments: 12

This is the best music i have been heard! I love all about that song! I love is too much. Please don´t tell bad things about that one, because it´s beautifull, lovely and sensible too much. I´d like to have more notices about Kelly, mainly NELLY of course. Kisses for them, mainly NELLY of course...Eliete - São Paulo, Brazil
Don't like this song. Better then Grillz.Brian - London, Canada
How would you know what kind of music to commit suicide to? Its not like you've ever done it.Kelli - Cedar Rapids, Ia
I really like this song and kelly and nelly actually work good together~! (maybe they should do another one together~!)Danielle - Richmond, Ky
This song brings back a lot of old memories. Good and bad, but it's nice to listen to this song all the same.Michael Jones - Berlin, Md
ok, you DONT commit suicide to noah jones. its too...slow. you cant commit suicide to slow music. there is no anger, you are at peace with jazz. you do it to like...staind, or something like that...but you shouldnt have to do it all all. its pointless, and even though you think its gonna help other people, it wont. it will make it worse for themSarah - Quito, South America
nelly and kelly arent even that good, and noah jones has more sophisticated music....but i hate her anyways. she sucks. ive had too much!Sarah - Quito, South America
This song totally relates to me!!!! Even though i dont have a b/f i still cant stop thinking about this one guy. i cant believe it lost to norah jones. that sucks!!!Autumn - Las Vegas, Ne
while nelly is good, norah's music is part of a dying artform. not many people can write jazz.Peter - Carmel, In
I agree with Lara Kelly and Nelly are WAY better than Norah Jones. Kelly and Nelly are the BOMB!Tiffany - Las Vegas, Nv
Norah Jones is ten times better than Kelly or nelly.Jude - Db, Ca
I don't believe this song lost to NORAH JONES ! She sings the kind of music you commit suicide to! If she was any slower on her videos MTV would have to use fast forward & it would still be slow! This is the best song ever when I hear the first part where she goes "& I luv u" I just have to sing along !Lara - Cape Town, South Africa
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