Album: Yourself Or Someone Like You (1996)
Charted: 64
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  • This song sounds like it's about a quirky but irresistible love interest - a girl who only sleeps when it's raining - but it has a much more sober meaning. Lead singer Rob Thomas wrote it about the time he spent caring for his mother when she was sick with cancer. Thomas was 12 years old when she got the disease, and she was given six months to live. She beat it, and by the time Rob was 17, she was healthy and he left home to set out on his own. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Megan - Tracy, CA
  • Thomas chose the time 3 a.m. because it was an hour after the bars usually closed.
  • This came together when the band was known as Tabitha's Secret (Tabitha was the daughter on the TV show Bewitched). The band played in the Orlando area from 1993 until 1995, when Rob Thomas, Brian Yale and Paul Doucette signed a record deal and left to form Matchbox 20.
  • The original Tabitha's Secret version of "3 AM" that helped get the band signed is acoustic; it sounds a lot like Matchbox Twenty and features Rob Thomas on vocals. In 1997, this version appeared on an album called Don't Play With Matches, which is credited to Tabitha's Secret. There is no mention of Matchbox Twenty or any photos of the band on the packaging, but the names of the five members who recorded the song (including Thomas) on the album cover.
  • The song was much slower when they first wrote it. When Matchbox 20 recorded their first album, they gave it a faster tempo.
  • This was Matchbox Twenty's second hit (after "Push"), and very important for the band because it proved they were not a one-hit-wonder.
  • Rob Thomas said at his 2006 Cleveland show with Jewel, "When I was younger I wrote songs all the time and at the time I thought they were great, but recently I looked at all the songs I wrote when I was younger and this was the first song I ever wrote that looking back on I still think is good." >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Jen - Cleveland, OH

Comments: 26

  • Brook Lynn from NyWell, Melanie, if that's true, you just outed her. Class act.
  • Corey from VtMelanie youre wrong, ive been to concerts where he has talked about his mother in great detail. the song is 100% about her
  • Melanie from NcActually, all of y’all are wrong. I’d say that Rob Thomas used the story of his mom as a cover up because he probably didn’t want the world to know who it’s really about to protect the real person’s identity and her story behind it. It’s about a friend from school he was very good friends with who was raped at a party. Everything about that song is her to a “T.” I knew her when this song was first popular. I worked with her in the Orlando area. Her name at the time was Beth Sumner. Now married. They both went to Lake Brantley High School.
  • Debbie from Placerville, Ca"In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o'clock in the morning." ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • Jim from Long Beach, CaToo bad Rob's mother died a couple of years ago. I really love this song.Peace...
  • Amy from Middle Of , TxHere is a link of the song, with the artist explaining where the song came from which was a time when his mother had cancer, and he was having to take care of himself and is mother at age 13.. And he wants everyone to use it in their own way and make it personal, a universal song.

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  • Stephen from Salem, Nh I noticed as I read these songfact they weren't 100% correct. I say this due to the fact the Lead Guitarist for Tabitha's Secret is/was Jay Stanley who is a friend of mine. And I was given a cd by him and it doesn't have the names of all 5 band members on the front. And that Jay had his name on the song and had them in court for over 3 years to win the court case and get what he was deserved (money and such). Jay was also the publisher of the Tabitha's Secret cd. He also told me that matchbox may use another song of Tabitha's. He now produces and records at his studio.
  • Madalyn from Greensburg, Pai can definatly relate to his mother... because i had cancer...and it seems that everything would just be picture perfect if you were better...and sometimes i still blame myself for getting sick...even tho i didn't do it to just feels liek everything is my fault
  • Laura from St. Louis, Mothe piano acoustic version is insanely sweet and a great lyrical dance if anyone in interested in that. except for the few wrong notes that they hit..
  • Edward from Miami Beach, FlDidn't they get threatened to be sued by mattel toys for using the name matchbox 20 or twenty? either way i believe they changed the way they wrote their name to the present form to avoid getting sued.
  • Mike from Wareham, MaIt makes me angry when people dis real singers while listening to artificial singers such as Cassie,Jon Secada,Cascada and others in the highly and overly produced category(add in Janet Jackson to that).not only is Rob Thomas my fav singer(MB20 my fav band)but 3am has to be one of the best written songs of all time.Though he's not with his Tabitha's Secret co-writers anymore,they get props too.So while some of the people out their are praising T.I. and Three 6 Mafia,they should think about a family member geting cancer and/or dying of a disease as such.....
  • Madalyn from Greensburg, Paawesome song ...loved it as a kid still love it today.
  • Brandon from Sterling, Vacharley you will never amount to one tenth of what rob thomas has accomplished. and shut up this song is about his mother coping with cancer when he was 12 you cannot even imaging what it would feel like if you were told your mother would die before you were 13
  • Tearsofblood from Nowhere That Concerns YouRob Thomas performed a version of this on VH1 Storytellers. It is played on the piano and is slower. It's absolutely fantastic. Also the lyrics are slightly different.

    She's got a little bit of something,
    God it's better than nothing
    And in her colour portrait world she believes she's got it all
    She swears the moon don't hang quite as high as it used to
    I think she's crazy
  • Mr. Pitters from Funky Touwn, Cado you mean Henson?
  • Brittany from Richmond, Kyone of my favorite songs from matchbox twenty! it just makes you want to listen to it and think about its message.
  • Ashley from Jackson, MiThere is a version of this song that is just piano and it's beautiful.
    There is almost a mini "break down," and it's amazing.
  • Rick from Humboldt, Iawhy do there have to be so many different genres of rock such as "emo" and "punk". Why can't it all just be rock?
  • Brittany from Waverly, Nyi love mathbox 20 but i love emo too so i think we all need to stop the criticizing it's really annoying.
  • Adrian from Merthyr Tydfil, Alsarah, Charlottesville, VA - Great comment!
  • Caitlyn from Midland, MiKyle (the guitarist) sang in the background during the last part of the song...and he also sings the chorus on "Hang".
  • Sarah from Charlottesville, VaHey Charlie, don't complain about Matchbox Twenty unless you have a reason. Rob Thomas has a great voise for singing, but you must not realise it because you probably lock yourself in your room and listen to the Backstreet Boys and N'SYNC. Nevermind that, you are probably part of an Emo band.
  • Caitlyn from Midland, MiRob decided to move out when he was seventeen because after his mother's cancer went into remission she took on a very free-spirited approach to life and he couldn't live with the constant partying and total disregard to anything resembling a normal life.

    Charley, which band do you consider to be the best band of all time?!
  • Clint from Kl, MalaysiaI think the lead singer of Hanson sang in the background during the last part of the song. "must be lonely...."
  • Charley from Lawrence, KsThis is one of the worst bands of all time, and rob thomas' singing is more disgusting than taking a big gulp of curdled milk
  • Jen from London, EnglandThere are two versions of this song on the tabitha's secret album: one is a slow accoustic version and the other is a slightly slower version. the lyrics are also slightly different near the end.
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