Possession by Sarah McLachlan

Album: Fumbling Towards Ecstasy (1993)

Charted: 73

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McLachlan wrote "Possession" from the point of view of an obsessed fan who wrote letters to her over a period of a few years. Following the song's release, the fan, Uwe Vandrei, sued McLachlan for songwriting credit, claiming she used parts of his letters in the lyrics. Vandrei asked for $250,000 and a televised meeting with McLachlan where they would discuss the song. He died by suicide on September 28, 1994 before the case went to trial.

As reported in the Ottawa X Press, Vandrei was a computer engineer from Vanier, Ontario who kept to himself - so much so that he was only reported missing after neighbors noticed his mail piling up. He was clearly obsessed with McLachlan, keeping journals dedicated to the singer and telling anyone who would listen about his overwhelming admiration for her. For about two years, he sent letters to McLachlan, but never contacted her in person or sent any other items. The letters, however, were pretty intense. When he filed his lawsuit against McLachlan, he sent copies of his letters to the radio station CKCU, providing a look into his troubles. Here are some excerpts from his letters:

Oh Sarah, Will I ever hold you on that shore?
Or only live it in a dream?
Will I ever tell you of my fears?
Will you ever collect my tear?

Let me repeat the lessons that you may not have learned well. Time and distance are IRRELEVANT! I am absorbed by, bound to you and I can wait a year, a decade, a lifetime. I will still be there, cherishing, contemplating, waiting.
Many have misunderstood this song to be about a romantic relationship. McLachlan commented on a Reddit AMA: "You wouldn't believe how many people use that song for their wedding. And I just smile quietly to myself. Like 'oh, that's nice.'"
"Possession" was Sarah McLachlan's first song to gain traction in America. Released as the first single from her third album, Fumbling Towards Ecstasy, it charted at #73, her first entry.

Raised in Halifax, Canada, she fronted a new-wave band when she was 17, earning the attention of the Vancouver-based Nettwerk Records, which signed her a few years later. Her first album, Touch in 1988, earned her a small following that she built on with Solace (1991) and Fumbling Towards Ecstasy (1993), but it was her fourth album, Surfacing, that leveled her up to the mainstream. The year it was released, 1997, McLachlan launched Lilith Fair, a groundbreaking tour with all female acts.
This was a gutsy song for McLachlan to release because her stalker was still out there. "Instead of running and hiding I chose to face it, head on, and to try and put myself into the shoes of the stalker," she told iTunes Originals. "We've all been obsessed to greater or lesser degrees about someone or something and by putting myself into those shoes I could find a place for it and put it away and not let it take over my life."
McLachlan, who studied at the Nova Scotia College of Art and Design, directed the video herself. It's from a feminist perspective, reversing gender norms by showing a woman with a harum, for instance. Throughout the video, McLachlan holds up a man who leans into her helplessly. That guy is played by Tony Pantages, who directed the video for her next single, "Hold On."

Comments: 16

Stop Defending Stalkers from HereI cannot believe some of you idiots who are sticking up for a f--king stalker or saying she was too dismissive of the creep.
Lizziepd from SpainActually, contrary to what people are thinking, her stalker didn't write any of the lyrics. The song was simply meant to capture the intention. Great song as creepy as it is!
Torri from AlbertaCanadian band HELLRAZOR covered this song on their 2020 "Hero no More" album
Rob from Cleveland, OhThis songs was also covered by Evans Blue.
Bd from Vienna, Va.I can understand some of the dismay mentioned here about McLachlan supposedly being dismissive of the guy who wrote her letters, but I'd also ask to see it from her point of view. Getting intense love letters from a total stranger has to be unnerving, to say the least.
Jeff from Sharon, PaCuriously "Possession" is in the same mode (B minor Dorian) and involves the same chord sequence and even some of the same vocal techniques as "Wicked Game" by Chris Isaak. I wonder if there is some connection? An allusion perhaps?
Christian Cage from Kitchner, OnFeatured in an episode of 'Due South'. Say what you want about her personality I think Sarah is a good singer. Of course I may very well be biased. Lol.
Jennie from Ansonia, CtThis song appeared in a Due South Episode of Season 1 called Victoria's Secret
Dag from Marquette, MiAlso, Sarah did not write the majority of words to this song. The words are from the young man who killed himself. She had a few beginning lines and maybe some chords, but the bulk is his writing. That is why he was to receive a payout from her label for $250,000, when he was found dead, an apparent suicide. Pretty sad that she still claims to have written it. In fact, she says it is about a fan who might want to kill their object of obession, when the young man never threatened anyone, all he wanted was to be acknowledged and paid for creating a song with his poetry in it.
Dag from Marquette, MiActually VH1 Storytellers interview is somewhat, ahem, telling, about Sarah. Most folks think she is some kind of angel. Interestingly enough, on her album, "Surfacing" is a song few if any people realize is another rip-off from her stalker's poetry. "Do What I Have Do" uses virtually the same words from a poem that Uwe Vandrei wrote. The poem is in the book "Building a Mystery".
Erik from Nonya, Pai love the smile empty soul version. it's as equally intense (if not more)
Jon from Fullerton, Cathe solo piano version is FAR superior IMO (at the end of "fumbling for ecstasy")
Elle from Santa Barbara, CaI saw the same VH1 Storytellers and her cold and uncaring attitude in describing this song's history was to me a bit disturbing, especially since his family was so pained by it all.It still is by far her best and my favorite song.(although it does gives me chills to hear it) and to know that a life was lost and a $profit made from that loss.
Mike from Boston, MaI remember first hearing this song back in 1994. But the song didn't really take off until it was re-recorded and released in 1997 where Hot AC stations really jumped on it.
Bronwyn from Johannesburg, South AfricaIts interesting to know what "inspiration" there was for this song.This is one of my favourites, I think that the way in which it was written makes it applicable to various situations that all people find themselves in (sane or crazy) from time to time....

-Bron-South Africa
Dennis from Chicagoland Burrows, IlI heard a portion of Sarah's VH1 Storytellers in which she divulges into the origin of this song. She described the fan's intensity which she was shocked and also allured by. Not allured by the man himself, but by the way in which a stranger could say such things to someone he in turn did not know either. This song she described as a sort of attempt to understand the phenomenon of this person's emotions twoards an unknowing subject.

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