The Way I Loved You

Album: Fearless (2008)
Charted: 72
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  • This song, which is about being in love with a bad guy when you're going out with a nice guy, was co-written by John Rich. Swift told That's Country about their collaboration: "It was always one of my goals to write with John. I had heard so many things about him. I just wanted to see what it was like to get into a room with him because I know I'm a very opinionated writer and I knew he was a very opinionated writer. So I knew this was either going to be the best thing in the world or was just going to be a complete train wreck."
  • Taylor Swift told That's Country the story of this song: "I got this idea for a song about being in a relationship with a nice guy who is punctual and opens up the door for you and brings you flowers... but you feel nothing. The whole time you're with him, you're thinking about the guy who was complicated and messy and frustrating. So I brought that idea, the title and where I thought the song should go to John. He was able to relate to it because he is that complicated, frustrating messy guy in his relationships. We came at the song from different angles. It was just so cool to get in a room and write with him because he really is an incredible writer."

Comments: 8

  • Ariani from IndonesiaI think this song is perfect for the movie Leap Year starring Amy Adams and Matthew Goode
  • Natalie from Czech RepublicI think this song fits perfectly for Gilmore girls when Rory is in a relationship with Dean but she is in love with Jess.
  • Abby from Manila, PhilippinesSo is it really about two guys or just one? Like how Mr. Perfect is so charming but there's nothing and that you had more feelings for the guy who was frustrating????
    Please answer soon!
  • Sardian from South Park, Cobut i do like that song, but not near as much as patty cake sang by barney (my best friend, and no she is not a purple dino, she the squirrel that lives in a tree in my yard)
  • Zoey from Alanta, GaIt sounds like the song was ment for Taylor (Lautner) if you ask me...
  • Ashleigh from ?????, MoI love the concept of this song. Sometimes Mr. Perfect isn't enough.
  • Anita from Citrus Heights, Cathis song is pretty cool.
    i ttly understand wat shes saying(:
  • Emily from Around Chicago, IlIn the booklet that comes w/the CD, there are hidden messages in the lyrics. You take all the capital letters and put them in order to spell a phrase. The Way I Loved You's message is: WE CANT GO BACK.
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