So Cold

Album: We Are Not Alone (2004)
Charted: 76
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  • Crowded streets all cleared away
    One by one
    Hollow heroes separate
    As they run

    You're so cold
    Keep your hand in mine
    Wise men wonder while
    Strong men die

    Show me how it ends, it's alright
    Show me how defenseless you really are
    Satisfied and empty inside
    that's alright, let's give this another try

    If you find your family
    Don't you cry
    In this land of make believe
    Dead and dry

    You're so cold
    But you feel alive
    Lay your hands on me
    One last time

    Show me how it ends, it's alright
    Show me how defenseless you really are
    Satisfied and empty inside
    that's alright, let's give this another try

    Show me how it ends, it's alright
    Show me how defenseless you really are
    Satisfied and empty inside
    that's alright, let's give this another try

    It's alright

    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright
    It's alright Writer/s: Aaron C. Fincke, Benjamin Burnley, Jeremy Hummel, Mark James Klepaski
    Publisher: Walt Disney Music Company
    Lyrics licensed and provided by LyricFind

Comments: 39

  • Anonymous from WakI know this isn't what it's about, but it fits IMO. A domestic relationship where he is advising to her, but she knows that inside he's cold and lost etc. When he is abusive towards her he is showing he how truly defenseless he is, except to be violent towards her. It satisfied the empty ness inside him when he feels how he does dominating her. But it's ok, she'll stay with him again n try to fix him(or just stay no reason given)How in love with her he is knowing she sees all this and is still there. (Doesn't say this in song) don't have the energy to go line for line, but it could fit right?
  • Koolestkatever from 74429I was curious where the video was filled, if they were ever in the swamp, or just a backdrop?
  • Mike from Nepa ( Near The Bands Hometown) I always thought because of the style of the video it was somehow tied to or based slightly off M. Night Shyamalan’s “The Village”. Since the two came out around the same time
  • Wyatt from CaliforniaI thought this song and it's video seemed to convey the Starving Times for the first English colonies. They came to America in search of wealth but they didn't come prepared so out of the 600 that went only 50 were left by the time people returned. The colonists had to eat each other's bodies in order to survive the harsh winters. The leader told them that if they wanted to eat they would have to work, so they did. I think maybe this song is about a family from that time and the voice speaking is the father who ends up being one of the last 50 alive. He watches everyday while people die and he is talking to himself in the song to try and stay sane. "If you find your family, don't you cry," could mean that his family died and he is mourning the loss of his wife and perhaps kids, hence the phrase, "You're so cold but you, feel alive. Lay your hand on me, one last time." Throughout the chorus he tries to talk himself into suicide but he can't do it, he just keeps on going hoping that help is on the way.
  • Scott from Bonne Terre, MoThis makes me think of the struggle of the Jewish people in Nazi Germany.
  • Vatimiss from Gainesville, GaStupid mouse... I wasn't finished. Oh well. I would just encourage people to look at the lyrics and listen to them. Don't take them for face value. One sentence in writing can have such a strong meaning behind it. Coupled with the music and voice, the possible meanings are endless!
  • Vatimiss from Gainesville, GaI love So Cold. I stumbled on this by searching the meaning behind the music video. (Powerful video there, check it out). I'm also interesting in the true meaning behind songs. So Cold, to me has a powerful message. Someone below said that it's meaning is in the title but didn't list what that meaning was. There are so many! Like, are they on the streets slowly freezing? Is this person that is so cold emotionally so? Is that person passing away and or dead? The lyrics are beautiful! The first stanza is describing the break down of a city, the people are disappearing, the people that were worshiped or had importance are running.
  • Zero from Nowhere, NjAlso, did anyone consider that SOAD may have been influenced by someone else when they wrote Spiders? I'm sure it's literally impossible to write a completely original chord progression anymore, considering how much music has already been written. That's all I have to say - Peace!
  • Zero from Nowhere, NjI think Jacklyn from NY is right on the money. Btw, I love Breaking Benjamin and SOAD, been listening to System forever, just got into BB. Apples and oranges, my friends.
  • Justin from Dallas, TxTo also add on that note, Bayroll by Nitzer Ebb is a ripoff of Can't Stop by the Red Hot Chili Peppers. Nitzer Ebb, just wasn't sued (that I'm aware of, possibly because no one has ever really listened to Bayroll, but I can be pretty damn sure if whomever wrote Can't Stop heard it, they'd be pretty pissed off.)
  • Justin from Dallas, TxSnuckles, I hate to disappoint you, but what the hell are you talking about? Spiders came out on System of a Down's first album System of a Down in 1998, So Cold, by Breaking Benjamin did not come out until the album We Are Not Alone in 2004. So Cold is a great song, however, it does not totally sound like spiders, if you listen to the songs side by side - IT IS HEAVILY INFLUENCED BY THE SONG SPIDERS. The guitar riffs are almost identical, the drumming IS too different. Is it a rip off? No, it's called, SAMPLING! You can sample a song as long as you literally don't change the words, hence oasis having been sued for "shakermaker" becuase that was them obviously changing the worlds to "I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing (In Perfect Harmony)" by The New Seekers. It isn't a rip off people it's just sampling, learn the damn difference.
  • Corey from Richmond, VaWoah! Mike SOAD rules!
  • Ryan from Anahola, HiThis song is a DLC for the music video game, Rock Band.
  • Jason from Maui, HiI'm sorry, but as a musician, there is not enough tonal similarity between the two songs to even come close to saying B.B. "stole" this song. The only thing that's even similar between So Cold and Spiders is the groove of one single guitar riff (the notes being played are different). It's like saying that Chevy "stole" the idea of the Corvette from Ford's Mustang because they both have wheels and an engine.

    Apart from the groove of that little riff, everything else about the two songs is different: the melody, the chords, the harmonies, the lyrics and their meanings, the bass lines, the drums (B.B. has some AWESOME drums here, btw), the chords, etc..
  • Snuckles from San Francisco, Cai soooooooooooooooooo am with megan on this. Its funny that you guys say they ripped off spiders when this came out ffirst. lol. tards.its like when my friend tried to tell me nofx coppied rancid (while i do like rancid better). NOFX CAME FIRST! AS DID "SO COLD! they are musicians. not time travelers. BTW i love this song. Sold me on BB
  • Jaclyn from , NyAhem. Few things people. One, a lot of people here are right. Artists give and take ideas, but it doesn't actually apply here anyway. Also, yea, this is opinionated, but SOAD is an amazing band. Why? Their music is good. But also their lyrics. They have deep meaning, unlike most of the songs from Breaking Benjamin. I'm not hating, don't get me wrong. I love both bands. They have great music. But it's almost impossible to compare bands that are so different. And no, SOAD did not break up actually, they're taking a "break". Don't know if that means they're comming back or not, but officaly, not broken up yet. But what does that matter? We'll still have the music they've given us (which has more meaning than being "so cold.." the title basically explains the song people). And in soad, they've got messages in their songs that people need to actually listen for, and most likely need to hear more times to get it. If you ask people what they think of the lyrics from both bands, it's most likely you'll find out that larger majority of people understand BB lyrics better than SOAD. Think about it. Who do you think has the more complex message, if so many people don't understand them. Of course everyone will understand a song that's told by it's title, and isn't really that "deep". Does breaking benjamin have meaningful messages? Yes. But SOAD more. I mean really people, look up the lyrics and compare spiders to so cold. Then whine about it. SOAD messages seem HEAVY compared to BB. Try not to be so heavy headed and get the idea that I'm trying to down BB. I'm not saying one is better than the other, but it's like factual about the lyrics. I love both bands, and even though this is technically "opinionated", I'd love to know how many people agree. Yes, other bands get ideas from other songs, I don't see how you never realized this before.
  • Nicki from Bv, CoTo ALL of you people who think that they used riffs from SPiders, they sound similar but the lyrics aren't even close so to say they ripped it off is just stupid! A lot of songs sound similar and so what-the bands are nothing alike so who cares anyway...they are both great bands with great music so get over it already and just like them both!
  • Seth from Peebles, OhThis is my favorite song in the world it has great lyrics and it's just awesome 5 stars!
  • Jeremy from Blaine, WaHow can you compare Breaking Benjamin to soad? They both have amazing songs in different ways. This song is alot better than spiders though
  • Ana from Kherson, Ukrainedo NOT hate on soad this song is sooooooooo much worse than spiders its not even funny you people dont have taste in music obviously
  • Sarah from La, CaBreaking Benjamin is one of the best bands. All of their songs are awsome!!!! 5 stars
  • Mike from Falmouth, Ma"Always" is not the only song "So Cold" was built from. Breaking Benjamin combined the "Always chorus music and final lyric with parts of another song they used to perform "Inertia". Plus, they didn't completely take out every part of each section of each song. They replaced the main guitar and bass riffs with different notes but kept it at the same tempo. Basically, along wih some newly created parts, breaking benjamin just arranged each part in the order that worked best. S.O.A.D. and their half-ass song spiders had nothing to do with the writing, performing, and producing of "So Cold"
  • Mike from Falmouth, MaMike from Jersey, there are tons of songs with that sort of progression. Also similar or not (not) So Cold blows Spiders out of the water, just like Breaking Benjamin blows S.O.A.D. off the face of the Earth. By the way I know Breaking Benjamin's busy recording their 4th Album, but where the hell is System of a down anyway? Oh that's right. They Broke up.
  • Mike from Falmouth, MaThis Sounds Nothing Like Spiders. I'm with you megan. The people who think So Cold used riffs from Spiders are either tone deaf or have been listening to music for like 5 minutes tops.
  • Killian from Salem, Ct"Even though Breaking Benjamin is one of the best bands of all time only a few of there songs have any relevant meaning and this is not one of them besides somebody bein so cold..
    - Eric, Petal, MS"

    Are idiot? There's obviously a deeper meaning in the lyrics. And obviously you're a tad too shallow to see that the lyrics mean more than a person being cold. You should probably go take a better english class that touches on irony and all those other literary concepts. Else, you're an idiot.
  • Seth from Portland, OrI like how some people are pissed that BB used a "similar" riff for So Cold, when I could show you 100 techno songs with the EXACT same tempo, stupid basic drum beat, and same chord progression...and at least 50 rap songs with the same retarded bass-snare 1B 2&S 3B 4S (that probably makes no sense to most of you...)

    Anyway, I went and listened to spiders. It has a similar tempo (different key though) and the first half of the riff is almost identical, but the second half stays on La (pardon my use of solfege, I love choir :D ) for 2 measures, while So Cold...well it goes higher (I wont waste your time by nailing that out...not that I haven't already :D ).

    The first time I heard this song, I was like...struck just hit me so powerfully. It's musicality is pure genious! I can't wait for their next album!
  • I. Orta from Austin, Txits so funny the way people discuss topics such as songs with no real right answer, but just wanting to be heard is what drives us to write. because all comments are opinionated and the likely hood of finding this person to get your point across is your odds but it doesnt stop us from wanting our voices to be heard. fact 1, if people like the song, people like the song. doesnt make it a bad song doesnt make it a good song. its a song regaurdless of where it came from.
  • Otto from Miami, United Statesit is sad when a band cant even write its own songs. dont get me wrong breaking bemjamin is awesome, but it is obvious that they rippeed off spiders. and yeah, spiders released in 1998.
  • Brad from Kokomo, InI love this song if u really think about it the song is very sad but im gonna sing it for my school talent show
  • Mike from Deptford, NjTo:Megan, Bucks, England
    Spiders was released by System on a Down back in '98. When I heard "so cold" i thought they were remaking "spiders" but realized they just ripped off most of the song. Even someone who is tone deaf could figure out the two riffs are the same. The progression of the songs is very similar as well. I am very surprised there hasn't been any lawsuits.

    I do love breaking benjamin and think their songs are great, with the exception of "so cold."
  • Megan from Bucks, EnglandAfter listening to Spiders I have found out that the song sounds nothing, NOTHING like So Cold in any way at all.

    I have a feeling whoever said that must be tone deaf. Or just have something against the fact that Breaking Benjamin are so much more awesome than System of a Down.
  • Megan from Bucks, EnglandPersonally, I think Breaking Benjamin are the greatest thing since sliced the saying goes.
    And 'So Cold' is a working of musical genius, and to suggest that they ripped off such a crappy band like System of a Down, is stupid.

    And possibly impossible, Spiders by System of a Down was released on 4th September 2004.
    The album by Breaking Benjamin containing So Cold, was released June 29 2004. The single So Cold was released November 23 2004.

    For a band to be able to rip off a song it would take longer than a couple of months to rip it off, and that is impossible because the album was released before Spiders was.

    Also, on the bands MySpace, their only influences are Nirvana and Tool. A bands influences are more often than not their favourite bands.
    So they wouldn't listen to System of a Down. Its not their style going by that.

    So other than that I have nothing more to say than this song beats ever other song hands down.
  • Joel from Boston, MaThis song was used in "Hellboy"
  • Steve from Burkburnett, TxI just wanna say this song used some riffs from System of a Down's song spiders. Not Cool.
    - Faraaz, Chino Hills, CA

    dude how the heck do you think music evolves? no style of music is COMPLETELY origional. Not every band can pull out a whole new style out of their butts like the beatles or Jimi Hendrix. If anything it should be flattering on System's part for having a part that breaking benjamin liked enough to put in their music. And this is even IF they "ripped" the riffs on purposes. Also, there are THOUSANDS of songs out there and BILLIONS without a record deal. Theres gotta be some if not hundreds that sound similar. No offense dude, just making sure the truth be known.
  • Clown from Slocala, FlYou do realize that every band out there has taken riffs from other bands music, it's a way of life for them.
  • Faraaz from Chino Hills, CaI just wanna say this song used some riffs from System of a Down's song spiders.
    Not Cool.
  • Bbb from Brook Park, United Statesalways is actually not the same the only thing that's the same is the line "well thats alright lets give this another try" and the guitar for the chourus
  • Maureen from Prospect, VaThis song is really good. There's alot of good parts that mean alot.
  • Eric from Petal, MsEven though Breaking Benjamin is one of the best bands of all time only a few of there songs have any relevant meaning and this is not one of them besides somebody bein so cold..
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