He Thinks He'll Keep Her

Album: Come On, Come On (1992)
Charted: 71
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  • She makes his coffee, she makes his bed
    She does the laundry, she keeps him fed
    When she was twenty-one she wore her mother's lace
    She said, "forever," with a smile upon her face

    She does the carpool, she P.T.A.'s
    Doctors and dentists, she drives all day
    When she was twenty-nine she delivered number three
    And ev'ry Christmas card showed a perfect family

    Ev'rything runs right on time
    Years of practice and design
    Spit and polish till it shines, he thinks he'll keep her
    Ev'rything is so benign
    The safest place you'll ever find
    God forbid you change your mind, he thinks he'll keep her

    She packs his suitcase, she sits and waits
    With no expression upon her face
    When she was thirty-six she met him at their door
    She said, "I'm sorry, I don't love you any more"

    Ev'rything runs right on time
    Years of practice and design
    Spit and polish till it shines, he thinks he'll keep her
    Ev'rything is so benign
    The safest place you'll ever find
    God forbid you change your mind, he thinks he'll keep her

    For fifteen years she had a job and not one raise in pay
    Now she's in the typing pool at minimum wage

    Ev'rything runs right on time
    Years of practice and design
    Spit and polish till it shines, he thinks he'll keep her
    Ev'rything is so benign
    The safest place you'll ever find
    At least until you change your mind (he thinks he'll keep her) all right Writer/s: DON SCHLITZ, MARY CHAPIN CARPENTER
    Publisher: Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group
    Lyrics licensed and provided by LyricFind

Comments: 12

  • Nm from MichiganI see this song as a young woman who had sacrificed so much to be part of the “cookie cutter” family. Just to realize that if both parties aren’t willing to put in in the same effort it doesn’t work. There must be a mutual understanding of each roles….
  • Dutiful Since 19 from UsaI interpret this song as she gave all she could to her husband, always took care of him, the house, the kids. Over the years, she comes to the realization that she is not lived and taken care of the way she takes care to him. So she packs his suitcase (I see that she asks him to leave)…And then she becomes a single mother …working on her own. “He thinks he’ll keep her” is HIS own narcissistic view that she’s lucky to have him. She’s been trying to earn HIS love if she’s good enough and takes care of everything and everyone. But she finally awakens that “she doesn’t love him anymore”. She’s rather earn “minimum wage”in he typing pool than be an unappreciated servant to him. Very real and poignant to women like me who have lived an unappreciated life with unreciprocated love for years…and in my case…decades.
  • Rob from West SussexLooking at previous comments, theres a lot of assuming a message that isn't actually there.

    What I feel makes the song great is that those judgements on values are absent from the song.
    There is not an insinuation of mistreatment in the realtionship. Even neglect, there is an undertone, but its not stated.
    It does not say, "Hey, leave your husband, it'll be great!"

    If its an indictment, it's of societal pressure- get married young, have a family- and the financial realities facing women of this generation (implication is that the woman in question was born in 1960 or before).
  • Mia from Wa"He thinks he'll keep her", like 'oh, yeah, she's not so bad'. That's a horrible way to view your spouse. He never appreciated her, so she left. He may have not physically abused her, but neglect is a form of abuse. People, go tell your spouse you appreciate them. They're not someone you 'just kinda keep around'.
    She may have gotten stuck in a dead end job, but at least she was free of him.
  • Mark from UtahNever once in the lyrics does it say she was mistreated or abused. It just shows the depth of shelfishness that some people exhibit. Destroy a family so she can feel empowered. Maybe we as a planet should outlaw all males unless they identify as women. Whatever that word means.
  • Ceecee from MichiganThis song seems like a slap in the face to women who want to leave their marriage or long-time committed relationship. It's almost as if it's saying, If you leave your partner all you'll have to look forward to is a minimum wage job. What kind of matri-maniacal message is that? Is it 1950?
  • Staley from Dallas, TxOne more in a long country music tradition of exploiting double meanings in the titles of songs: "he thinks he'll keep her" because she's such a dutiful wife, but on the other hand, he THINKS he'll keep her, but he's wrong.
  • Camille from Toronto, OhI like some of Mary Chapin Carpenter's songs, this just isn't one of them. It's depressing and pointless. The woman's life goes nowhere. She chucks it all for a typing job at minimum wage? Does not sound very fulfilling.
  • Andrew from Blossvale, NyMary Chapin Carpenter did indeed write this song, Lucinda Williams wrote "Passionate Kisses", another hit from the album C'mon C'mon
  • Luke from Montpelier, VtI think Lucinda Williams actually wrote this song.
  • Steve from Salt Lake City, UtHi Kelly in Levitown.
    Dreat song for sure!
    Im just glad my mom stuck around totally "Unfullfilled"
  • Kelly from Levittown, PaThis is a great song, and it tells a great story. A woman who spends her whole life caring for her husband and children and then realizes one day she just wants to do something for herself.
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