Album: Partners In Crime (1979)
Charted: 31 6
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  • Over by the window, there's a pack of cigarettes
    Not my brand, you understand
    Sometimes the girl forgets
    She forgets to hide them
    I know who left those smokes behind
    She'll say, "ah, he's just a friend"
    And I'll say, "oh, I'm not blind"

    To him, him, him, what's she gonna do about him?
    She's gonna have to do without him
    Or do without me, me, me
    No one gets to get it for free
    It's me or it's him

    Don't know what he looks like
    Don't know who he is
    Don't know why she thought that I
    Would say what's mine is his

    I don't want to own her
    But I can't let her have it both ways
    Three is one too many of us
    She leaves with me or stays

    With him, him, him, what's she gonna do about him?
    She's gonna have to do without him
    Or do without me, me, me
    No one gets to get it for free
    It's me or it's him

    Ooh, ooh
    Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

    If she wants him, she can have him
    Just exactly how we once were
    It's goodbye to he and I
    And back to me and her

    Without him, him, him, what's she gonna do about him?
    She's gonna have to do without him
    Or do without me, me, me
    No one gets to get it for free
    Time for me to make the girl see

    It's me or it's him, him, him
    What's she gonna do about him?
    She's gonna have to do without him
    Or do without me, me, me
    No one gets to get it for free
    Time for me to make the girl see
    It's me or it's him Writer/s: Rupert Holmes
    Publisher: Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
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Comments: 10

  • Gary From Nj from Lindenwold, NjThere seems to be a contradiction in the lyrics.

    First verse line:
    "I know who left those smokes behind."

    Second verse starts:
    "Don't know what he looks like.
    Don't know who he is..."

    If he knows who left the cigarettes, he obviously knows who he is and what he looks like.
  • Jade from Los AngelesThen what does this mean?

    If she wants him, she can have him
    Just exactly how we once were
    It's goodbye to he and I
    And back to me and her
    Without him...

    Made me think the men were friends but earlier he says 'Don't know what he looks like' So is he saying he got HER by cheating?
  • Tania from Brisbane, AustraliaOne look at the lyrics, or heck even listen to the song, and you know straight away it’s about her cheating on her partner!
  • Barry from Sauquoit, NyOn January 19, 1980, Rupert Holmes performed "Him" on the Dick Clark ABC-TV Saturday-afternoon program, 'American Bandstand'...
    At the time "Him" was in it's first week on Billboard's Top 100 chart at position #72, ten weeks later it would peak at #6 {for 2 weeks} and it spent seventeen weeks on the Top 100...
    It reached #4 on both the Billboard and Canadian Adult Contemporary Tracks charts...
    Between 1978 and 1981 the Englishman had six records on the Top 100 chart, two made the Top 10 with one reaching #1, "Escape (The Pina Colada Song)", for two weeks on December 16th, 1979...
    He charted two more times on the Top 100 as a member of the Street People, "Jennifer Tomkins" {#36 in 1970} and "Thank You Girl" {#96, also in 1970}...
    Mr. Holmes, born David Goldstein, will celebrate his 71st birthday next month on February 24th {2018}.
  • Greg from Durham, NcThis is about an affair, plain and simple.
  • Tony from San DiegoHow the heck can anyone EVER think this is about a menage a trois ? He clearly states "Don't know what he looks like, don't know who he is". End of story.
  • Yakofujimato from Boston, MaThis is NOT about a menage a trois. Ron has it right. The narrator's lady is double dipping and he is giving her an ultimatum.
  • Joe from New Richmond, WiI totally agree with Ron, it's not a menage a trois, based on the line "...three is one too many of us..."
  • Ron from New Harmony, UtI don't know if I agree with the analysis above about this song being about a "menage a trois". The lyrics suggest his lady is seeing someone else and he is aware of it. He is confronting her about the other man and asking her to make a choice between the two of them and letting her know that if she doesn't choose, he's out of there.
  • James from Yucaipa, CaThis is one of my all time favorite songs.I remember it well in 1980.Rupert holmes is a great songwriter/musician.7/21/08
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