Knowing Me, Knowing You

Album: Arrival (1976)
Charted: 1 14
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  • Bjorn Ulvaeus of ABBA came up with this song at a time when the relationships within the group were strained, and his lyric reflect that. Said Ulvaeus: "I think I wrote 'Knowing Me Knowing You' before the divorce. In many ways, Agnetha and my divorce was an amicable one, we just grew apart and decided let's split up. Benny and Frida's was a little more difficult. It was not a happy time but still very creative."
  • This is a serious song by ABBA, probably a turning point in their career. You can see a definite transition in ABBA's sound here as they are beginning to leave the Bubblegum behind and start touching on serious issues, such as divorce. One can't help but wonder if there was a foreshadowing of the divorces that would end up splitting the group up just a short few years later. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Ron - Auburndale, FL
  • This song also reached #1 in Ireland, Mexico, South Africa and West Germany. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Jerro - New Alexandria, PA

Comments: 15

  • Tshioma from Shayandima , Limpopo Province , South AfricaPainful truth !
  • Rabbi Meyer from Central WisconsinThe ultimate Swedish break-up song!
  • Seventhmist from 7th HeavenThe notes are correct that this was a turning point, being a darker song than anything they had previously released.
  • Khalid from NigeriaI was stuck on the lyrics for days. ABBA, eccentric!
  • Tc from Uk'Walking through an empty house, tears in my eyes'.
    So sad, so simply genius!
  • Scott from Halifax, NsThe great Elvis Costello used to perform Knowing Me, Knowing You in concert and he has called it the best song ever written about divorce.
  • Dane from Green Cove Springs Fla., FlA harmony masterpiece.Very complex.Yet another song I've always loved.
  • Peterm from Birmingham, United KingdomMarried in '76, so the lyrics not really relevant to us at the time....but a good song anyway.
  • Gerry from Swindon, United KingdomThis song haunts me even now some 33 years later I split with my first girfriend in 77 and for the first time in my life I knew how love could actually hurt. She was back a week or two later and we actually kept going unti 1983. But the melody is so perfectly haunting
  • Guy from Woodinville, WaLove the poignancy of this song. "In these old familiar rooms, children would play..." And the great background vocals dancing about--very sophisticated, like something the Beatles would take on.
  • Kate from Austin , TxI love how Abba stands still in all of their videos and live appearances and look so focused on their music. If you never saw any videos you would never know they seem to be really concentrating hard. I love Abba...
  • Martin from London, United KingdomDespite the song's subject, it is not autobiographical in any sense, as the two couples in ABBA were still happily married at this point (early 1977). Agnetha and Björn did not get divorced until 1979. Now, The Winner Takes It All was certainly based on the experiences of divorce.
  • Jerro from New Alexandria, PaTo Guy: you made a small error. Agnetha was married to Björn, not Benny. Despite your error on who was married to who, I do understand your point.
  • Guy from Wellington, New ZealandBelieve it or not my understanding is that this was actually written by ABBA about the breakup of Agnetha and Benny. Incredible to think that they could maintain sufficient distance on the personal stuff as they wrote and recorded the song. It seems much more gut wrenching in this respect than the 'your fault, no, your fault' songs in Rumours (Fleetwood Mac).
  • David from Flushing, MiMarshall Crenshaw does a great and very faithful version of this song on his live album My Truck is my Home. It is clear that he is an ABBA fan.
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