How Do You Get That Lonely

Album: Off To Join The World (2005)
Charted: 91
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Songfacts®:

  • This song was written by Rory Lee Feek and Jamie Teachener after Rory got a call from his daughter's school. They told Rory his daughter wanted to come home because her friend's boyfriend killed himself, and they found the body that morning. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Matt - St. Louis, MO
  • A few years after this song was released, Rory started recording with his wife as Joey + Rory. They recorded "Album Number Two," which Rory wrote for Larsen, but was rejected. Another one Rory wrote that Larsen turned down was "A Little More Country Than That," which Easton Corbin recorded in 2009.

Comments: 8

  • Wendy from TennesseeI think this song says it all. I have friends that have had suicides in the family and my heart breaks for them. My heart goes out to all who have lost a friend or loved one.
  • Wildchild from Christchurch NewzealandThis reminds me of my cousin who commited suicide in 2018 and a few family and friends that also did including my grandma who did after a still birth in 1965
  • Esther Kads from UgandaThis is a very powerful song and I listen to the song almost all day and I keep recommending it to my friends.

    But still I can't tell as well how someone so young as such can get that lonely to the point of suicide. The Lord's hand is not too short that it can't save and there is no situation that is permanent.
    I love the song .
  • Shawnee from Bellmont, IlI've thought about committing suicide, but then I thought about my two nieces. The thought of never seeing them get married one day stopped me from thinking that dangerous thought.
  • Misty from Inverness, FlThis is such a powerful song, it is so sad and scarey to me because I have a 15 year old son. I hope that if he ever feels like this he can come to me to talk.
  • Dontavious from St Simons, Gai love his song i can listen to it all day long i do computer work at school and listen to this song all day
  • Jessica from Wapanucka, OkI LOVE THIS SONG. EVERYTIME I LISTEN TO IT I CRY. I CAN LISTEN TO IT ALL DAY OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT IS HOW MUCH I LOVE THIS SONG. I LOST ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. HE WAS LIKE IN HIS 20'S. SOMEBODY PUT DRUGS IN HIS DRINK. AND IT KILLED HIM.. I STILL MISS HIM, SOMETIME I WISH I WAS WITH HIM.........
  • Landon from Winchester, OhThe lyrics of this song are depressing, but so powerful.
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