Love Me Not

Album: Trespasser (2026)
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Songfacts®:

  • In "Love Me Not," Grace Potter makes a play on the children's game where you pull the petals off a flower one by one, alternating between "(s)he loves me" and "(s)he loves me not" to get the answer with the last petal left. The character she plays in the song is a little desperate and maybe a bit unhinged, wondering, "Did you ever even like me a little?"

    "I was nursery rhyme singing with my kid at the time," Potter said of writing it. "Always keep track of it. Don't just make a voice memo; title the voice memo and send it to yourself. Then take all those ideas, all those threads that start to feel like, 'Okay, that's a thing.' Throw those things together... I think there is a level of limbo that we all have to exist in when we're writing a song and we don't know how it's going to turn out. Being willing to take that leap off the edge is the beginning of getting to the core of what you really are trying to say and saying it well."
  • This is one of the first songs we heard that used "deep fake" as a metaphor:

    I can't take the heartbreak
    ...was it all just a deep fake?


    Around this time, AI was making it possible to generate videos that looked very real.
  • The "he loves me, he loves me not" concept was big around this time, notably in the 2024 hit "Love Me Not" by Ravyn Lenae. Justin Bieber used it in his song "Daisies" later that year.
  • "Love Me Not" and "Run Baby Run" were released as singles ahead of the Trespasser album, but Potter calls them "outliers" and "red herrings."

    "I made it like a mosaic," she told Off The Record. "I think about it like a pool that started out as just a very cool 1950s Atomic Era pool. Then it got drained; that house became a house of ill repute, and the skateboarders came in and turned it into a skateboard park. Then the re-gentrification of the desert homeland came in and suddenly there's a Starbucks on the corner, and some fancy couple wants to tile over it. They've got their idea because they saw it in a catalog once, and they want to put tiles over the top of where the skateboard skid marks are."

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