Many of the songs Jimmy Eat World lead singer Jim Adkins writes are about relationships that are out of balance. In this track, the singer is wondering if his partner is giving him the put-on. "Is it you? Or is it that you with me?," he asks.
"When you're facing adversity, especially in a relationship, I think how your role contributes to it is always the last place you're going to look to address a problem," Adkins said in a Songfacts interview
. "You'll look in every direction, but ignore your role. It's not sexy and it's not what people really want to hear, but that's what you can control. You can't make this other person happy - they're responsible for their own happiness and you're responsible for yours. Trying to pin your own sense of self worth and happiness on what someone else is going to bring you is always going to fail."