Miss Me More

Album: Unapologetically (2017)
Charted: 47

Songfacts®:

  • The Unapologetically album tells the story of Kelsea Ballerini's recovery from a difficult breakup and self-discovery before finding love with fellow country singer Morgan Evans. This song finds the singer listing the reasons why she's better off without her ex as she lists his various demands when they were together. The result was she lost her independence.

    I retired my red lipstick 'cause you said you didn't like it
    I didn't wear my high heeled shoes, 'cause I couldn't be taller than you


    "In a lot of young relationships, you fall in love for the first time and you give every part of yourself to make it work," Ballerini explained to the BBC. "But sometimes, when it's not treated right, that's how you lose yourself. I think it's really a beautiful moment when you get to the other side, and you're looking in the mirror and you're like, 'Huh, I thought I was going to miss him but - actually - I miss me!'"
  • Kelsea Ballerini wrote the song with:

    Brett McLaughlin, known as Leland to his music peers, whose other credits include with Daya's "Hide Away," Troye Sivan's "Youth" and Selena Gomez's "Fetish."

    Former Evanescence member David Hodges, who has also written hit songs for Kelly Clarkson ("Because Of You"), Daughtry ("What About Now") and Christina Perri ("A Thousand Years").
  • Pop Crush asked Ballerini how she got get linked up with Leland. She replied:

    "I followed him on Twitter, because I'm obsessed with Troye Sivan, and he wrote a lot of that record [Blue Neighbourhood]. I was out in LA and had a morning off. I messaged him, 'Hey, my name's Kelsea. I'm a country singer, and I love you and what you've written with Troye and Daya. I was wondering if you could write today?' And he could. It was this perfect storm."
  • Ballerini told Pop Crush the story of the song: "I had had the hook for a long time. It was my first time writing out in LA, and Leland is such a good pop writer. We wrote with David, as well. I was like, "I have this hook of like 'I thought I'd miss you but I miss me more.'" And we all went to the sassiest version of ourselves and wrote it. It was so much fun."
  • The accompanying music video directed by Shane Drake shows Ballerini readying herself for a boxing match. Shot during a nearly 12-hour marathon workout session at Jaxon Boxing Gym in Los Angeles, the singer enlisted the help of the fight coordinator for Creed to help her look the part.

    The clip throws in a twist near the end when we realize the fight is between the version of Ballerini during the relationship and who she is on the other side of the breakup. "I wrote 'Miss Me More' about a time when I was rediscovering myself after a bad breakup," she explained. "I felt like I was fighting for myself and so, I always had the vision for this video as a dark, intense, fight scene to reflect that."

Comments: 1

  • Bridget from CoI'm surprised this is a country song. It doesn't sound like it. It covers topics more pop songs talk about. But oh well.
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