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Album: Exile In Guyville (1993)
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  • This song is about a women who wants desperately to have sex with a guy. It's one of her most infamous songs because of its raunchy lyrics. >>
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  • Exile in Guyville was a song-by-song reply by Phair to the Rolling Stones' 1972 album, Exile on Main St. and this song corresponds to "Let It Loose." Phair explained to Rolling Stone: "He's saying let it loose, stop being an uptight girl from the suburbs and I'm like, really, OK, here you go, here's what's in there! I had part of that song beforehand and I developed it. I had the roundabout thing and I wrote the rap at school thinking about this boy with these beautiful lips."
  • Revisiting the album in 2018 for its 25th anniversary reissue, Phair told Rolling Stone about the significance of the song's disparate sound and how it was influenced by her early recordings as Girly-Sound: "What's beautiful about this is the contrast, like the menacing sound of the guitar. I mean it sounds like the guitar, the electricity is turned up so high through this. It sounds like it's crackling on the edge, like a transformer blowing up outside your house or something. It sounds that menacing. Then you have this little, tiny girl voice singing these blue, filthy lyrics about wanting to give blow jobs and stuff. That encapsulates the Girly-Sound project that came before Guyville that was all about how the young female voice carries the least amount of authority of any voice in society. What does it take before you listen to what she's saying? What is she allowed to say?"
  • Phair challenges the outdated notion that women aren't interested in sex and uses the song to reclaim her sexuality. "I felt like everywhere I turned, people were denying my experience of my own sexuality. I was very interested in sex. I wasn't promiscuous, but I was as interested as any boy that I knew. Also, it was the era of AIDS, so I was highly conscious of health," she explained. "I got tired of reading articles justifying social norms with these really limp studies about how animals behave. They hadn't studied the female brain enough at that point, and they were still trying to tell you that you didn't have a G-spot and that women were less interested in sex, and I'm like, 'Maybe because they married a guy for security and they're just not into him.' Like, there are other explanations.

    I felt like it was really important to want overtly and to lust and to be able to own my own sexuality. I was scared to do it, but I felt like it was important to take the territory back for myself."
  • Phair's sexual frustration inspired the famous line "I want to be your blowjob queen." She told Details magazine in 1994 that while she was still attending Oberlin College, where she graduated from in 1990, she tried to seduce a guy one drunken night. "I had this big crush on a younger man and I was so frustrated – I felt like a man dealing with a young fawn of a girl. I'd been dancing around him in ways that he wasn't even aware of and all I wanted to do was get down and bone."

    Phair did end up getting the guy in bed, where he did nothing but sleep. "[He] just snoozed there. It was ridiculous," she said.
  • This was used on the TV series The L Word in the 2004 episode "Liberally."
  • The industrial band Caustic covered this on the 2007 album Booze Up And Riot: Hangover Edition, with vocals by Victoria Lloyd of Claire Voyant.
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Comments: 5

  • Jeff from Boston, MaThis song is a satire of society's view of girls as sweet and innocent. The music is intended to be reminiscent of a children's song while the lyrics represent a decidedly adult libido. I imagine this as what is running through her head as she is gazing at the guy she likes, but saying nothing - outwardly conforming to the stereotype of the "good girl" but inwardly expressing her passionate sexual desire.
  • Mike from Matawan, NjI think she needs to set her standards lower. She'll NEVER get a guy if she acts like that!!!!!
  • Theresa from Murfreesboro, TnDirty song from a talented woman. I totally dig it!
  • Jessie from Dallas, TxVery weird song, I have to say. Why Can't I is probably my favorite song by Liz Phair.
  • Calum from Edinburgh, ScotlandRemind me. What are the lyrics?
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