Don't Expect Me To Be Your Friend
by Lobo

Album: Of A Simple Man (1972)
Charted: 8

Songfacts®:

  • In this song, the singer is in love with someone he can never have. The unattainable object of his love has no idea what's going on or that there's anything wrong. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Mike - Santa Barbara, CA

Comments: 8

  • Ashish from IndiaThis song completely encapsulates the emotions, that i needed to tell the girl whom i loved dearly. It touches your heart straight and give you a trip to hell and back. That void which you feel in your life in that phase can find peace by this song. If i am gonna boot zone her, this would be the song i would be sending her and then out of her life !
  • Charlie from BostonAlmost like this song was written for me. If you're out there Karen, I hope you are fine. I could kick myself for all the time I invested. So embarrassing. I let my imagination get the better of me.
  • Keith from MiI lived this song, my lover suddenly wanted to be only friends. The story needed to end. Very painful experience. This song captures this feeling exquisitely.
  • Benn from VillawoodA beautiful, gentle ode to bootzoning. Describes exactly why we all hate being friendzoned. So long ago, yet so relevant today. I hear a song on the radio called "friends", where a man finally plucks up the courage to tell his friend how he feels about her, only for the singer to viciously rip into him because she only wants to be friends. Disgusting and immature, really. But what should I expect from my idiotic generation?

    This is the antithesis of that; a man gently telling the object of his affection that because they can only be friends, and because he cannot handle the thought of her being with another man, he wants to "just let the story kinda end", and move on with his life. The singer doesn't hate her, he doesn't use harsh tone - instead calm, but he's clearly hurt. He will get over this. He just wants to let go, cut ties and get on with his life.

    I can truly identify with this - I bootzoned a lady who friendzoned me for 3 years, but when i decided to cut contact when I was 18 (2009), she wasn't happy despite the fact that she had no romantic interest in me & had a boyfriend. & she was only the first. I got friendzoned a bunch of times since, many of which were upset about my decision to bootzone. But I never got as close to them as I did her. The lyrics describe exactly how I felt about that woman in particular - and why I got rid of her.
    Sorry for the long post, these are such direct lyrics in a sad, yet beautiful song. You don't get songs like these anymore
  • A A from CanadaNobody sings a love song (albeit unrequited) as good as Lobo. Lucky to have a chance to see him sing live in Toronto recently. His voice is as clear as ever despite his failing health. Ahhh good times doesn't last forever.
  • Matthew from Toronto, OnSuch a poignant, heart-rending song. Painful to listen to, but very reminiscent of the feelings all of us have suffered when we realize someone we love doesn't feel that way about us. And the offer to "just be friends" doesn't cut it. If we can't be lovers, then we can't be friends. Sorry. I wish it weren't like that, but there you have it. Not many songs written about unrequited love anymore; there should be more--they are extemely relevant to us all. There's a somewhat similar song from 1967 by the Cyrkle called "I Wish You Could Be Here"--painful, wistful, sad.
  • Walt from Vacaville, CaI like so many have lived this song. It is so true.
  • Glenn from Minneapolis, MnI always saw this as a song about a girl who cools on the relationship, but still wants to be friends. Because the guy is totally in love with this woman, he just can't turn off his true feelings and seeing her, especially with her new boyfriends is pure agony.

    It's not so much the woman he could never have, but the woman he once had and has now lost. In his heart he knows that his only option is to break it off completely and move on!
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