Paul Anka had four daughters when he recorded this song in 1974. He wrote it about the joys of fatherhood and his appreciation for his wife (Anne de Zogheb, a former fashion model), but it came off a bit patronizing:
Having my baby What a lovely way of saying How much you love me
The National Organization of Women (NOW) took him to task, giving him a derisive "Keep Her In Her Place" award. Anka insisted the song was an affectionate tribute to childbirth, and the song's popularity bore this out: The song went to #1 in America for three weeks.
This is a duet with the female singer Odia Coates, who gives the subject of the song a voice:
I'm a woman in love And I love what's goin' through me
Many women, in love or otherwise, recognize this as a lyric only a man would write.
The song didn't start out as a duet: Anka was doing it solo when an executive at his label suggested that Odia Coates, whom Anka was working with at the time, sing on it with him. She ended up singing on the track and also on Anka's next three singles: "One Man Woman/One Woman Man" (#7 US), "I Don't Like To Sleep Alone" (#8 US) and "(I Believe) There's Nothing Stronger Than Our Love" (#15 US). Coates reached #71 in 1975 with a cover of the Electric Light Orchestra song "Showdown," and #91 that year with the Anka-penned "Don't Leave Me In The Morning." She died of cancer in 1991 at age 49.
This was a big comeback song for Anka, who was one of the most popular artists of the late '50s and early '60s, but was swept away by the British Invasion. When "(You're) Having My Baby" hit #1 in America, it was 15 years after his last chart-topper, "Lonely Boy," a record at the time for longest span between #1 hits.
Bianca from North CarolinaI'm only 26, pregnant with my first and I love this song. It's so sweet, I'd heard my mom singing it when she was pregnant with my youngest sister in 2000 & liked the melody then. Its just such a nice little duet and now it's stuck in my head all day :) <3
Carolyn from Knoville, TnI was pregnant in 1974, and I thought this was a perfectly wonderful song. I thought it was great that a man would express such a sentimental view of his wife's pregnancy. My husband would call in to a local radio station and ask them to play this for me.
Barry from Sauquoit, NyAs stated above she passed away at age 49; she died on May 5th, 1991 from breast cancer. R.I.P.
Megan from Toronto, OnSongs today like "Stacey's Mom" are getting played on the radio, and yet somehow people are still offended over a man commenting on the beauty of his pregnant wife.
Paul from Detroit, MiA great song and tribute to all pregnant women. Only the crazies at NOW would find the song offensive.
Julie from Belfair, WaAre you people for real? It's a beautiful song and a tribute to the mother of his child. It DOESN'T WORK with 'our'.
I think maybe NOW is offended at the other lyrics: Didn't have to keep it wouldn't put you through it. You could have swept it with a knife (or gotten a suction) no, you wouldn't kill it so you're having my baby.
Karen from Manchester, NhOne small word change could have made it unoffensive: "(You're) Having OUR Baby" would probably fix that. (Side note: I relate to this song, because I never felt so beautiful as when I was pregnant.)
Ericthebold from New York, NyNOW was right to denounce this song. It also should have been denounced by the NAACP, the ASPCA, the NRA, the PTA, the NBA, MADD, the Knights of Columbus and everyone in the world simply because it is probably the worst song ever recorded.
David from Youngstown, OhThe lyrics are so hysterically bad as well as offensive. It's one of my favorite guilty-pleasure songs.
Chet from Buffalo, NyFor heaven's sake, the woman's name was ODIA.
Zabadak from London, EnglandIt is a shame that Oida Coates' name was not mentioned on the record label...
John from Brisbane, United StatesIs it because the National Organization of Women are shameful of the fact that females get pregnant? This is a very good song it tells how appreciative they are for this pregnancy.Isn't She Lovely, is another good song with the same message.