Trying To Love You

Album: Jasper County (2005)
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  • While Trisha Yearwood was recording her 2005 Jasper County album, she was eagerly anticipating her upcoming wedding to Garth Brooks. But the twice-divorced country singer wasn't naive to the fact that marriage takes hard work, which might be why "Trying To Love You," the album's second single, appealed to her.

    Country singer-songwriter Beth Nielsen Chapman wrote this with her longtime collaborator Bill Lloyd for her own 2005 album, Look. In their eyes, the heartache ballad is about a romance that turns toxic, but Yearwood's interpretation is more optimistic.

    "I think that it's about a relationship that's working," she told CMT in 2005. "It's about how good it is and how bad it is. It's that 'you make me so incredibly happy, and sometimes I want to kill you.' Those are all the elements that make up trying to love somebody. It's a constant give-and-take, and it's constantly exhilarating and frustrating and rewarding - all of those things. It's not just always good. A good relationship is not just always good. That's what I take from it. It's an honest, positive take on how difficult being in a relationship is. The best relationships are the ones that have some sort of tension."
  • Jasper County was Yearwood's first album in four years, since 2001's Inside Out. She had left Nashville to settle in Brooks' native Oklahoma, but made sure her producer, Garth Fundis, knew she was still open for business.

    "I gave everybody my address. I'm like, 'No matter where I am, you can find me,'" she told CMT. "I wanted to make sure that I got everything. Garth Fundis was listening to songs for me, as he always does, and I still gave all those guys my address because I thought there are going to be songs that I won't hear, and I want to make sure I get them. It was interesting because we heard the same stuff. I got the same thousand songs that he got. It was good because when you are listening to that many songs, you need a couple of sets of ears listening to make sure that you don't miss anything."

    Working remotely was also a lot easier to do in the 2000s compared to when Yearwood first started out in the early '90s. "With MP3 and computer files now, it makes it wonderful," she continued. "Someone can send you something on the Internet and you can listen to it immediately, and you can let them know one way or the other by email, so that's helped a lot."
  • This was Yearwood's first single to enter the Billboard Adult Contemporary chart, where it peaked at #28. It also reached #52 on the Country chart.
  • Chapman, who sang backing vocals on this version, was thrilled with Yearwood's performance. "Everything she records is magic," she told Nu Country TV.

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