One Of Your Girls

Album: Something to Give Each Other (2023)
Charted: 11 79
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Songfacts®:

  • In "One Of Your Girls," Troye Sivan explores a sentiment that resonates with many gay guys: the complicated allure of having romantic or sexual feelings for a heterosexual man. Sivan appeals to his love interest, urging them to "pretend" he's either a girl or one of his homies, someone they can be at ease around.
  • Sivan penned the synth-pop song based on personal encounters with guys who had historically identified as straight but showed a keen interest in him. "They were flirting with me, saying there was something in me that they were interested in," he told Apple Music.

    Sivan described a complex mix of emotions, such as putting these men on a pedestal, grappling with why the situation was so enticing, and questioning himself due to past heartbreaks. The singer realized he wasn't treating himself with the respect he deserved by being someone's secret experiment.
  • These experiences left Sivan with a range of feelings, sometimes elated and sometimes deeply saddened.

    "It probably comes from childhood [feelings] of not feeling like enough, and then seeing these guys that I'm like, 'I don't know if I want to be you or be with you, but I'm completely 'hearteyes' for you,'" he told the Guardian, "I found that a lot of the time after these experiences, I'd be kind of selling myself short or allowing myself to be the secret. It's a bit self-deprecating."
  • Sivan wrote the song with Leland (Selena Gomez, Ava Max) and the track's producer Oscar Görres (Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Sam Smith).

    They penned three different choruses and ended up coming with a version where Sivan is accompanied on the chorus by a sad-robot vocoder voice inspired by a movie he'd seen.

    "Even that spoke to the way I'd felt: like I was expected to be there when they wanted me, then disappear when they freaked out, then be there again when they wanted," said Sivan. "Like this emotionless object. And yet there I was time and time again. You don't want to rush them through the process of figuring s--t out. This isn't me making any sort of statement - I have patience for that experience. I'm just musing to myself about it."
  • Oscar Görres is part of Max Martin's production team, Wolf Cousins. When Max Martin visited the studio one day, they played Sivan's demos for him. When he heard "One of Your Girls," he walked up to the keyboards and started playing a synth line though, which they loved. According to Sivan, Martin asked not to be credited and gave it to them as a gift.
  • Görres plays all the instruments on the track (timpani, drums, percussion, keyboards, guitar, bass).
  • Sivan shot the video with director Gordon von Steiner (Hermès Ski, Versace Man, Dior Rouge), cinematographer Stuart Winecoff (JAY Z, FKA Twigs) and choreographer Sergio Reis (BTS' "Black Swan"). They are the same team behind Sivan's visuals for "Rush" and "Got Me Started."

    Sivan performs the song in drag; American actor and singer Ross Lynch (Austin & Ally, Teen Beach Movie) plays his love interest.

Comments: 1

  • Showmoke from UkNo surprises that Max Martin was involved with the chorus on 'One Of Your Girls'. When I first heard that song, I thought that this is the best song that Troye's done to date. Max's magic touch on that chorus line makes the song instantly a great hit.
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