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• Wednesday vocalist Karly Hartzman and guitarist Jake "MJ" Lenderman were a couple for six years before breaking up during their Tokyo tour in March 2024. The split became the unspoken ghost haunting Bleeds, the band's sixth album, which they somehow managed to record without telling the rest of the group what had happened until it was all over. When the truth emerged, certain songs suddenly clicked into focus, including "The Way Love Goes," an acoustic-leaning ballad whose title does double duty: love as a state of being, and love as something that packs its bags and leaves.
  
  "It may be my favorite song that I've ever written," Hartznan told Uncut magazine. "It's about accepting that you're not in love with someone, making peace with that and wishing them well in what they do afterward."
• Hartzman built the song around the melodic framework of Merle Haggard's 1983 country staple "That's The Way Love Goes." By adopting this melody, Hartzman created a subtle handshake between classic country fatalism and Wednesday's own grainy, modern ache.
  
  "I wanted to write a love song for Jake using the melody of Merle Haggard's 'That's the Way Love Goes,' as a means to acknowledge and apologize for my self-imposed isolation," Hartman explained. "I was avoiding sadness and exhaustion, and distancing myself from him because I lacked the energy to support him."
• Sequenced as track 7 on Bleeds, "The Way Love Goes" sits between "Candy Breath," a song about the seductive danger of pretty lies, and "Pick Up That Knife," a breathless spiral of self-blame and relational wreckage. In that context, it functions like a deep breath in the middle of an argument: a moment of clarity before the feelings come rushing back in.
• Produced by longtime collaborator Alex Farrar at Drop of Sun in Asheville, North Carolina, Bleeds landed to widespread acclaim. It scored an 88 on Metacritic from 20 critics. Rolling Stone ranked it #8 and Pitchfork placed it at #6 on their lists of the best albums of 2025.