You Oughta Know

Album: Jagged Little Pill (1995)
Charted: 22 13
  • I want you to know, that I am happy for you
    I wish nothing but the best for you both
    An older version of me
    Is she perverted like me?
    Would she go down on you in a theater?
    Does she speak eloquently
    And would she have your baby?
    I'm sure she'd make a really excellent mother

    'Cause the love that you gave that we made
    Wasn't able to make it enough for you
    To be open wide, no
    And every time you speak her name
    Does she know how you told me
    You'd hold me until you died
    'Til you died, but you're still alive

    And I'm here, to remind you
    Of the mess you left when you went away
    It's not fair, to deny me
    Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
    You, you, you oughta know

    You seem very well, things look peaceful
    I'm not quite as well, I thought you should know
    Did you forget about me, Mr. Duplicity?
    I hate to bug you in the middle of dinner
    It was a slap in the face
    How quickly I was replaced
    And are you thinking of me when you fuck her?

    'Cause the love that you gave that we made
    Wasn't able to make it enough for you
    To be open wide, no
    And every time you speak her name
    Does she know how you told me
    You'd hold me until you died
    'Til you died, but you're still alive

    And I'm here, to remind you
    Of the mess you left when you went away
    It's not fair, to deny me
    Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
    You, you, you oughta know

    'Cause the joke that you laid in the bed
    That was me and I'm not gonna fade
    As soon as you close your eyes, and you know it
    And every time I scratch my nails
    Down someone else's back I hope you feel it
    Well, can you feel it?

    And I'm here, to remind you
    Of the mess you left when you went away
    It's not fair, to deny me
    Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
    You, you, you oughta know

Comments: 35

  • Katy from Atkinson , NhAgree with Jamie
  • Jamie from Cabot, ArThis song also provided one of the funniest misheard lyrics ever- "It's not fair to deny me of the cross-eyed baby that you gave to me..."
  • Theresa from Murfreesboro, TnThe cuss words are the best part of the song. It's Alanis's most beloved anthem but she has written stronger songs since.
  • Tracy from Tulsa, OkThe day she found happiness with herself was the day her career died.

    Still love her though.
  • Joe from Cornwall, NyThe 5-track EP by 1000 Mona Lisas has their cover of You Oughta Know hidden at the end. It's kinda cool. I believe it was released only a few months after JLP.
  • Alexandre from Santos, BrazilAlanis has got to work hard to compare herself to Joni Mitchell...Alanis sucks! Alexandre Albertoni, Santos, Brazil.
  • Kate from Burnaby, CanadaOooh, this song is great for singing at the top of your lungs. Preferably on your balcony when you know your neighbours can hear you.
  • Bertrand from Paris, FranceAlanis Morissette's debut sent shock waves through the music industry. No pop singer had ever laid bare the anger and pain of a relationship gone bad quite so explicitly. "You Oughta Know" clearly touched a nerve and led audiences into the complex, intricate songcraft of the phenomenally successful [b] Jagged Little Pill [b] album.

  • Jenney from Brownwood, Tx"Morissette performed a slow version of this at the 1996 Grammys. The show was on a 7-second delay so they could bleep out the word "f--k."

    I saw this performance. It was a very heart-felt, emotional performance, very very very very well done! She cried and so did I - I had recently gone through a divorce that left me feeling much as she felt in this song.
  • Dominick from New York, NyAs they say, and as Angel mentioned, "Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned."
  • Selena from Griffin, GaRock On Alannis!!!!!
  • Ed from Incognito, IlLittle known fact: Allanis was once on Ed McMahon's Star Search
  • Scott from Palm Desert, CaVery powerful song. Alanis poured her heart out on this. Sadly she has never been able to top it or even come close although her other music is o.k.
  • Shay from Bridgeton, MoAlanis used to be on a show on Nickelodeon called "You Can't Do That On Television!" She was also a well known "pop singer" in Canada before she hit here in the US.
  • Stefanie from Rock Hill, ScWhen this came out I was about 6 or 7 years old. My mom and sister both listened to Little Jagged Pill, and at the time I didn't get the lines "Would she go down on you in a theater" and "Are you thinking of me when you f--k her." I get those lines now that i'm older and know more than I did then.
  • Vanessa from Grand Blanc, Miwell this is directed towards Dirk of nashville...her parents let her date him cuz of course they wouldnt have all that money coming in if it werent for her!
  • Blair from Peterborough, Canadai heard this song was about Mike Peluso, the hockey player
  • Dirk from Nashville, TnWhat sort of sh*t parents would allow their 16 year old daughter to "go out with" a 31 year old man? Didn't somebody--Mom, Dad, Uncle Fred, Grandma-- think to take the gentleman aside and suggest he focus his romantic feelings on someone who's already had a chance to grow up?
  • Christine from Sunderland, EnglandApparantly the guy who she's singing about is the same guy who's house she goes to in the hidden track on jagged little pill. not sure if it's true.
  • Ron from Malone, NyDuring the Grammy awards broadcast in Canada, they didn't bleep out the F word. Rock on Canada!!!
  • Kathy from N-u-l, EnglandThe chorus of this was used in Weird Al Yankovich's "Alternative Polka", but sung quite a lot faster
  • Richard from Newport, Isle Of Wight, EnglandDennis of Remeoville, Illinois, is winding you all up. This song was never the state song of Mississippi. The state song of Mississippi is "Go Mississippi" by William Houston Davis, who was born in Oklahoma in 1914 but moved to Mississippi during WWII. As if a song called "You Oughta Know" about a failed love affair would have been made a state song! And if they were going to change their state song, perhaps they would have picked a slightly more famous Mississippian songwriter than Glen Ballard: for instance John Lee Hooker, Faith Hill, Bo Diddley or Sam Cooke. They might do well to steer clear of infamous wife-beater Ike Turner, or paedophilic double wife-murderer Jerry Lee Lewis, however. Or Britney Spears.
  • Julie from Marquette, MiThis ENTIRE album was EXTREMELY overplayed when it was very happy not to hear it everywhere anymore. NO offense Alannis...
  • Craig from Madison, WiOn the comment that it started a "copy cat faze of angry women singers." Alanis did not start that phase, nor would she claim to have. It goes back to the earliest recordings of Bessie Smith and Ma Rainey in the 20's. Alanis just popularized it. Before she came along there was the Riot Grrl sub-revolution, and Liz Phair's "Exile in Guyville"--one of the best albums of the last 25 years (which many have said inspired "Jagged Little Pill"). But towering above them all as the angriest broken heart song (male or female) is Marianne Faithfull's musical disembowelment of an unfaithful lover "Why'd Ya Do It." Not for the faint of heart. Coming out in 1979, it still is entirely frightening, and hasn't lost any of it's apocalyptic fury. Check it out. Due respect to Alanis, but it makes "You Oughta Know" sound merely pouty.
  • John Mark Lawler from Hattiesburg, Mscontrary to the message posted below, this was never even considered to be made the state song of MS. although it is a very good song and i like it very much there are many many much more talented singer songwriters from the state of MS than glenn ballard that would have been considered long before him.
  • Emma from Auckland, New Zealandyou can really feel her anger when she sings this.....its great.....can't wait for JLP re-release!!!
  • Kieran from Harlow, United StatesIt is about Dave Coulier, they broke up only a little while after this was performed.
  • Olivia from Los Angeles, Cawho'da thought this song was about that dude from full house???!!!
  • Rachel from Upper Darby, Pathis is such a great angry chick song....alanis morisette is really good at doing those...they're good to cool down to.
  • Scott Baddwin from Edmonton, EnglandAlso that on the you oughta know versian at the end if u let the cd play,the beginning actually uses a bass.
  • Marlow from Perth, Australiastarted a copy cat faze of angry women least alanis sung it from the heart!
  • Holly from Pensacola, FlI remember that I played this song like 100 times a day after I found out that my ex-boyfriend had cheated on me with another girl. It felt really good at the time to take all my anger and frustration out, while singing this song and driving around in my car.
  • Angel from Tauranga, New Zealandyeah watch out guys.....beware of a woman scorned..
  • Dennis from Romeoville, IlSince Glen Ballard is originally from Mississippi, the state legislature made this the state song in honor of a Mississippi boy doing good. However, none of the legislatures knew exactly what the lyrics were. When a public uproar occurred as angry parents said a song with the F word in the lyrics should not be the state song, they revoked the law that made it the state song.
  • David from Modesto, Cawell this song should be a lesson to all men evrywhere dont mess with your girl or she will sing about you and make you look really bad.
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