Bang and Blame

Album: Monster (1994)
Charted: 15 19
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  • If you could see yourself now, baby
    It's not my fault, you used to be so in control
    You're going to roll right over this one
    Just roll me over, let me go
    You're laying blame
    Take this as no, no, no, no, no

    You bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    Then blame, blame, blame
    You bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    It's not my thing, so let it go

    If you could see yourself now, baby
    The tables have turned, the whole world hinges on your swings
    Your secret life of indiscreet discretions
    I'd turn the screw and leave the screen
    Don't point your finger
    You know that's not my thing

    You came to bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    To blame, blame, blame
    Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    It's not my thing, so let it go now

    You've got a little worry
    I know it all too well
    I've got your number
    But so does every kiss and tell
    Who dares to cross your threshold
    Happens on you way
    Stop laying blame
    You know that's not my thing
    You know that's not my thing

    You came to bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    Then blame, blame, blame
    Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    It's not my thing so let it go, you
    Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    Then blame, blame, blame
    Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang
    It's not my thing so let it go

    You kiss on me
    Tug on me
    Rub on me
    Jump on me
    You bang on me
    Beat on me
    Hit on me
    Let go on me
    You let go on me Writer/s: Bill Berry, Michael Mills, Michael Stipe, Peter Buck
    Publisher: Universal Music Publishing Group
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Comments: 10

  • Kevin from Hoover, AlabamaI've always taken a very different interpretation. Kurt Cobain and Michael Stipe were close friends. They talked to each other on the phone shortly before Kurt killed himself. So I see this song as being Michael trying to give Kurt advice.

    If you could see yourself now, baby
    It's not my fault, you used to be so in control
    You're going to roll right over this one
    Just roll me over, let me go
    You're laying blame
    Take this as no, no, no, no, no
  • Carmen from HermosilloI recall back in the 90's when this album and single came out, Michael Stipe was asked about this song on an MTV interview (I think by Kurt Loder) and he simply said said: "It's about people who use sex as a weapon"...and that was that. I wish I could find the clip, it must be on YouTube somewhere.
  • Duc from HoustonMost REM fans know that Michael Stype is gay. This song is about a certain kind of homophobia. Men who are either questioning/confused about their sexuality, in the closet, in denial, or just plain horny and hard up for sex often find themselves having some kind of sexual interaction with a gay man. After the deed is done they turn around and blame the gay man instead of accepting the role they played in the encounter. They bully, threaten, and often physically assault the gay man - That's a bang and blame. If you read the lyrics you can see the hidden meaning. (And FYI I'm a female and long time REM fan)

    If you could see yourself now, baby,
    It's not my fault, you used to be so in control.
    You're going to roll right over this one.
    Just roll me over, let me go,
    You're laying blame.
    Take this as no, no, no, no, no.

    Swings here does not mean punches, it means swings in sexuality. Indiscreet discretions, secret life. That's denial, closeted.

    If you could see yourself now, baby,
    The tables have turned, the whole world hinges on your swings,
    Your secret life of indiscreet discretions.
    I'd turn the screw and leave the screen,
    Don't point your finger,
    You know that's not my thing.

    The next verses are about worrying if the gay man is going to tell.

    You've got a little worry,
    I know it all too well.
    I've got your number --
    But so does every kiss and tell
    Who dares to cross your threshold,
    Or happens on you way,
    Stop laying blame.
    You know that's not my thing.

    You kiss on me,
    Tug on me,
    Rub on me,
    Jump on me.
    You bang on me,
    Beat on me,
    Hit on me,
    Let go on me.
    You let go on me.


  • Anna from Seattle, WaI agree with Adam, when this album came out, everyone was like "hmmm, kinda heavy on the guitar, huh?" Not said about lyrical content. Is this a stage bands go through on the way to a dorment stage? I'm asking cause I'm just curious. My ex-brother in-laws band was doing really good for our little market (Seattle) in the mid 90's, but at the same time scouts or whatever they are were coming out to see them, the band was imploding (due to their life stage, mid to late 20's', marriage and babies, blah blah) and they got the same thing, super heavy on the guitar. I remember asking my sister-in-law how it was going and she just groaned and said "uhhhgggg, way to harsh and heavy for my enjoyment when they practice these days" Then they broke uy. up and were gone...imploded.
  • Adam from Boyce, VaI own the Monster Album and there is no real theme anywhere's on it. Only thing that's constant on it is that REM wanted to rock on this album and add alot of loud distorted guitar sound.
  • Darrell from EugeneWil in KC, KS- It's spelled "Losing". "Loosing" is not a real word, at least not in English.
  • David from San Salvador, CaREM is one of the greatest bands ever, I mean EVER...great band, you just have to love music alot to understand them more...
  • Wil from Kc, KsYes, this song was never about domestic violence. I don't know how someone ever came to that conclusion however REM has often been missunderstood. A good example is "Loosing My Religion".
  • Raja from Austin, TxI believed Michael once said it was about how attackers of women (and society in general) often blame the victims of rape. By saying they dressed for it.
  • Erin from Richmond, VaIt was never said by the band that this song was ever about domestic violence. If you know how Michael writes and you know the theme throughout the album Monster, it's more about a manipulative person maybe than an actual domestic violence. It seems like it would be more about a friends with benefit situation gone bad or something.
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