Ex-Girlfriend

Album: Return Of Saturn (2000)
Charted: 23
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Songfacts®:

  • In this song, No Doubt lead singer Gwen Stefani looks back on a failed relationship knowing she is now part of a long list of this guy's ex-girlfriends. She knew his type, but made the mistake of kissing him anyway, which is when she got hooked.

    If the song is about a real relationship, it was one from long ago; Stefani had been dating Bush lead singer Gavin Rossdale for about four years when the song was released. They got married in 2002 and divorced in 2015.
  • The line, "You say you're gonna burn before you mellow" is a reference to the Bush song "Dead Meat," where Rossdale sings: "I'm doing you in tomorrow, I'll burn before I mellow."

    That song appears on Bush's 1999 album The Science of Things; Stefani sang on another track from the album: "Spacetravel."
  • In the music video, directed by Hype Williams, Stefani disguises herself as a man so she can attack Tony Kanal, the band's bassist who also happens to be her real-life ex-boyfriend, in the men's bathroom. Many of the clip's scenes are based on the controversial anime Kite, about a young female assassin.

Comments: 8

  • Kim from Franceif she wrote it about Tony, then why would she include a lyric from Rossdale? she wrote this about him and their break-up prior to reuniting/getting married.
  • Lilly from Chicago, IlHell yeah to what Danielle said! Why did she have to turn into another popstar clone? She was so wicked in no doubt
  • Jennika from Phoenix , AzActually this song was written by Gwen telling the story of her failed relationship with band's guitarist, Tony Kanal
  • Cristina from Long Beach, Cathis song is kool because all girls that have been throught that or that are going through it can totally dedicate this song to their ex-boyfriends or what WE call trash boys
  • Danielle from Palm Coast, Fli love her hair in the music video she was the first to get the pink hair color started. i hate her newest music i liked her punk it suits her more. and the music sounds better to!!!
  • Andy from London, Englandjust in case your interested, depending on how its written kite can mean to come (not in the sexual sense which in japanese is to go)
  • Kiki from Big Spring, Txi love this song any girl who has been dumped by their first boyfriend can relate to this song!!!!
  • Nick from Erwin, NcThe bathroom scene in the music video was ripped right out of the anime movie "Kite" (pronounced key-tae). "Kite" is considered a 'hentai' movie, which is an anime with graphic sexual scenes (which is what "Kite" DEFINITELY was).
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