Fame often presents a conundrum: the balance of respect between the band and the fans. Too many times a line gets crossed. The difficulty is in deciphering what is acceptable behavior.
Fortunately for the members of O.A.R. the fans they've encountered are, for the most part, above the line, and Marc, for one, enjoys the camaraderie. "I got a wedding invitation to someone's wedding, and it wasn't weird
. It was like I've known these people for ten years. A lot of these folks have been coming out for 8, 7, 6, 5, even a couple of years. But you get to know these people because they support you so much and they have stories. There's a guy, an FBI guy who comes, and I love seeing the FBI dude, because he gives me cool hats and sh*t. It's really an interesting thing. A lot of teachers. I have a soft spot for teachers, so any teachers who come I'm always willing to give them tickets or something."
"I guess we don't fit into that category of the crazy party girls. It's just not like that. It's like a big high school reunion or something. The other night I was in Ohio playing at the Newport, where I haven't played in years, and we were doing this show for the Michigan game. And I walk out the back after soundcheck and there's this kid that I recognize from the shows. And I'm like, 'Hey, what are you doing here?' He's like, 'Oh, man, I just flew in.' And I said, 'Where are you from?' And he said, 'North Dakota.' I was like 'Holy sh*t.' He said, 'I had to see the Newport.' I said, 'Well where are you staying?' He was like, 'Oh, I don't have a room yet.' (laughing) It's like, 'Are you crazy?
' And then he says, 'Well, all I know is that you're doing a radio show in Minnesota in a month, and there's no tickets. Can I have tickets?' And sure enough, a month later he e-mailed our manager and he showed up in Minnesota in the front row. I mean, this kid comes alone. In one way you want to say, 'Oh, is that weird?' And in another way, it's not. These folks just really like to be around people and have a good time. I've had some weird ones. I've had some pretty scary weird ones. But I just like prefer not to talk about them." (laughing)
The edges begin to blur when people are so willing to read something from song lyrics into their perception of their religion. Marc confesses, "It's always religious based. It's always dudes coming out with the Bible, 'Hey, man, your song, I know it's about this section.' I'm like, 'I have never
... But... okay… cool, thanks.' And on one hand you're like, 'That's really sweet,' and on the other hand you're saying, 'That's kinda weird.' I don't know why that is, I don't know why Bible passages can scare you so much. And meanwhile, I'm a Jew from Maryland." (Check out our full interview with Marc Roberge