Forget Me Nots

Album: Straight from the Heart (1982)
Charted: 8 23
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Songfacts®:

  • This song is about wishing to remember a love, or even stave off the passing of what could be a long-lasting love between two people. The lyric is heartfelt and engaging, but the song is best known for its groove, a supple slice of R&B-pop that evolved past the disco sound. That groove proved enduring: In 1997 it was interpolated to form the basis of Will Smith's "Men In Black," a #1 hit and the title track to his blockbuster movie. That song reworked the lyrics to "they won't let you remember" because the Men In Black erase the memories of those who have seen alien activity.
  • Rushen was a prodigy, having won the 1972 Monterey Jazz Festival at the age of 18. She released her first album in 1974 and had a number of R&B hits, but "Forget Me Nots" was her only song to crack the Top 40 on the Hot 100.
  • A forget-me-not is a kind of flower. It is traditionally given to someone so that person will remember you.
  • Rushen wrote this song with the singer Terri McFadden and the bass player Freddie Washington - he also played on the track.
  • Rushen's label, Elektra Records, didn't hear the hit potential in this song, so she had to fight for it, taking promotion into her own hands. "We knew clearly that the song 'Forget Me Nots' was a single but the record company people sat there and said, 'we don't hear anything on here we can do anything with,'" she told Soul Music.com. "We believed in 'Forget Me Nots' so I took most of my life savings – which was not a lot – and Charles Mims (the producer) took some of his and we hired an independent promoter to take it and run with it. We had good reason to believe the record company might be wrong. I toured that year also and man, the record took off so fast, faster than ever before and faster than what we expected. 'Forget Me Nots' took off like wildfire. Afterwards the president of the label found out I had used my life savings so he wrote me a check to reimburse me for the money I spent on hiring an independent promotion man!"
  • George Michael sampled this song on his 1996 hit "Fastlove."
  • In 1991 R&B group Tongue 'N' Cheek did a dance version peaking at #26 in the UK chart.
  • This song plays in the trampoline scene of the 1988 Tom Hanks movie Big. It also appears in the films Clubbed (2008) and Fatal Affair (2020).

Comments: 4

  • Barry from Sauquoit, NyOn this day in 1982 {June 19th} Patrice Rushen performed "Forget Me Nots" on the nationally syndicated television program, 'Soul Train'...
    At the time the song was at position #10 on Billboard's Hot Dance Club Songs chart, four weeks earlier it had peaked at #2* {for 3 weeks}...
    It reached #4 on Billboard's Hot Black Singles chart...
    Her two preceding records, "Look Up" and"Never Gonna Give You Up", also peaked at #2 on the Hot Dance Club Songs Chart...
    She had one other Top 10 record on the Hot Dance Club Songs chart, "Haven't You Heard", it reached #5 in 1980...
    Patrice Louise Rushen will celebrate her 65th birthday this coming September 30th, 2019...
    R.I.P. Don Cornelius {1936 - 2012}...
    * For the three weeks that "Forget Me Nots" was at #2 on the Hot Dance Club Songs chart, the #1 record for those three weeks was "In The Name of Love" by the Thompson Twins...
  • Barry from Sauquoit, NyOn May 29, 1982, Patrice Rushen performed "Forget Me Nots" on the Dick Clark ABC-TV network Saturday-afternoon program 'American Bandstand'...
    At the time the song was at #43 on Billboard's Hot Top 100 chart; five weeks later it would peak at #23 {for 3 weeks} and it spent 16 weeks on the Top 100...
    It reached #4 on Billboard's Hot R&B Singles chart...
    Between 1979 and 1987 she had fourteen records on the Hot R&B Singles chart; four made the Top 10 with her biggest hit being "Feel So Real (Won't Let Go)", it peaked at number two...
    Her two other Top 10 records were "Haven't You Heard" at #7 in 1980 and "Watch Out" at #9 in 1987...
    Patrice Louise Rushen will celebrate her 63rd birthday this coming September 30th {2017}.
  • Barry from Sauquoit, NyIf you drop the 'S' you have "Forget Me Not"; an a song of that title charted twice. First in 1958 by The Kalin Twins and it peaked at No. 12 and then a completely different record by Martha & the Vandellas in 1968, it reahed No. 68!!!
  • Ben from Lexington, Ky"Ready" Freddie Washington came up with the bass hook for this song himself. Such a great line and really defines the groove.
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