If You Asked Me To

Album: Be Yourself (1989)
Charted: 79
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Songfacts®:

  • Written by Diane Warren, this song is about a woman who suddenly discovers how to love again after shrinking from it for years. LaBelle starts off softly, then grows stronger as the narrator becomes more confident.
  • Celine Dion's version hit #4 in the US in 1992.
  • LaBelle's version plays over the end credits of the James Bond movie License To Kill. >>>
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    Mike - Santa Barbara, CA, for all above
  • The day before she filmed the music video, LaBelle attended the funeral for her sister Jackie Padgett, who died of cancer at age 43. The day of the shoot would have been her 44th birthday. The tone of the clip reflects LaBelle's grief - dressed all in black, she tearfully sings the song in a church, surrounded by candles and lilies. In her 1996 autobiography, Don't Block The Blessings, LaBelle explained she was also struggling with another emotion: guilt.

    Jackie had been struggling to eat throughout her chemotherapy treatments, but the idea of one of LaBelle's egg sandwiches appealed to her. She called LaBelle and begged her to make her one, but the singer refused, saying she was too tired and would do it another time. She never got the opportunity as Jackie died just a few days later. LaBelle's guilt nagged at her during the shoot.

    "I couldn't hold back the tears. The more I sang, the more I thought - about what I had done, what I hadn't done, what I would never be able to do again," she recalled. "The more I thought, the harder I cried. Those tears you see on that video? There's nothing phony about them. They're real. The pain you couldn't possibly see was very real - almost unbearable. It got so bad that, before the video could be released, most of the tears ended up on the cutting room floor. That whole shoot was agonizing, but I made it through."

Comments: 2

  • Seventhmist from 7th HeavenThe title refers to a repeated exchange between Bond and Bond girl Pam Bouvier in "License to Kill."

    Bouvier: Why don't you wait until you're asked?
    Bond: Why don't you ask me?
  • Myla from San Diego, CaI like Patti's version better!
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