Album: Out Of The Game (2012)
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  • Rufus Wainwright closes his seventh studio album, Out Of The Game with this reflection on his late mother, Kate McGarrigle's, passing. He told UK newspaper The Sun: "I'm still dealing with my mother's death. The second year anniversary came and the pain bounced back again. I don't think there was a more famous mother-son duo than us. We worked together, partied together and were super-close.

    That song is based on a real story. Throughout my mother's illness and subsequent death we all would light candles at cathedrals throughout the world and it was very comforting. Then she died and I ended up going to three different churches in the week after she had passed and each one of them was out of candles.

    At first, I took it as a message saying, 'I'm OK now, don't worry. You felt the sun in your life and I'm travelling'. But then when I did finally light her a candle I was in Paris at Notre Dame cathedral. It was high mass and there was incense everywhere, singing and organs and then I realised, 'Wait a minute, my mom was just hedging her bets."

    He added with a laugh: "She wanted me to do it in the big church. She wasn't going to have it in the chapel down the street, she wanted the big cathedral "I'm not a religious person but I am a spiritual person and it made me think how grateful I was because my mom actually did have a really good death and was at home with her family. We were lucky."
  • Here's some candle trivia:
    Slow-burning candles made of tallow or wax and usually cylindrical with a fiber wick at the center, have been used since 3000BC.

    Around the turn of the 19th century, domestic illumination was still mainly by candles. The gentry used beeswax candles; everyone else used tallow.

    You can see a candle flame from 50 Kilometers on a clear, dark night.

    In the US 7 out of 10 homes use candles.
  • Producer Mark Ronson gave Wainwright full reign on this song. He told "We tried a couple of things with drums at one point, but it became obvious that I had to do it my way. I dictated the full structure and production of the piece, and Mark facilitated it for me. It has my family, it has bagpipes, it has funeral drums... I knew where to go with it. Mark was there the whole time listening, appreciating and supporting me - mostly emotionally. It wasn't an easy song to do."
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