This steamy number was written by Sugarland's duo Jennifer Nettles and Kristian Bush together with Kenny Chesney's long-time lead guitarist Clayton Mitchell.
Unusually for a Country track, this song continues musically after the last lyric ends.
Nettles commented on Sugarland's website that she liked the romantic implications of this song's lyrics. The duo also agreed that if the listener isn't making out halfway into this six-minute yearning, then they aren't ever going to be!
Phil Oakey recorded his vocals for "Don't You Want Me" in the studio bathroom. The recording was disrupted by guitarist Jo Callis reaching through an open window from outside to repeatedly flush one of the toilets.
The song "Sadeness" by Enigma (the one with the chanting monks), got its name from the French novelist Marquis de Sade, who believed sex had to be painful in order to be pleasurable - thus the word "sadism."