Not Meant To Be

Album: Scars & Souvenirs (2008)
Charted: 55
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  • Frontman Tyler Connolly wrote this song concerning romance on the rocks with Kara DioGuardi at the American Idol judge's house. He commented in a press release: "Amazing. I went over to her place, drank some wine and we wrote 'Not Meant To Be' in 5 minutes. Our writing styles fit together so perfectly it was almost like it was 'meant to be.'"
  • DioGuardi made her music video debut in the song's clip, in which she played the female lead. The promo was directed by Tony Petrossian (Stone Sour, Seether, Taking Back Sunday, Avenged Sevenfold, DMX).
  • This featured on the soundtrack of the 2009 movie Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen.
  • Connolly recalled the writing of the song in an interview with Noisecreep: "I remember giving Kara the song title and she said, 'I like that! I don't I've heard of a song with that title.' So then I just wrote the chords right there on the spot. From there, she started humming the vocal melody and wrote the lyrics off of that. I took it home and finished the rest. The next day I show up with the finished song and she says, 'That's a hit.' Once I sent Roadrunner Records the demo, they loved it."

Comments: 2

  • Megan from Stevenson, AlAmazing song! Love everything there is about this song!
  • Robert from Los Angeles, CaAwesome song. Great powerful lyrics. Catchy tune. What did you expect from TOAD?
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