This, like a number of other tracks on the album, was produced by Hip-Hop producer L.T. Hutton. Ashanti told MTV News: "As soon as I heard the first four bars of ['The Way That I Love You'], I was like, 'Oh my gosh.' I took a pen and a pad and I just started jotting down words, and it just kind of poured out. I think that it's such a great record, so many people can relate to it, male, female, and it's deep. It's very different from anything out there, and it's totally different for me as far as production and arrangement and things like that. I've written topics very similar, but this by far is, I guess, kind of next level for me."
Ashanti also told MTV News about the video, where she finds out that her boyfriend has been cheating on her, before things take a dramatic turn. She explained: "It's something completely different than anything I've ever done before. We're kind of basing the concept on a show called Snapped, which is on the Oh! channel. It's about women who have gotten pushed to the [point] where they feel, I guess, [that it's] necessary to murder their husbands, boyfriends, what have you. It's actually a documentary like [Tru] TV's Forensic Files, but this one is only for women; when women snap they do crazy things. So being that the record is so dramatic and so painful and emotional, I think that the concepts just married each other and it was amazing. The director, Kevin Bray, just brought different twists and different angles out of it, and it was a great thing."