Album: Phobia (2006)
Charted: 84
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  • This song is most likely about a relationship where one person has changed and the other person hates who that person has become, but at the same time can't let go because they are still in love. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Destiny - Toronto, Canada

Comments: 33

  • Danny R from Coral Springs, FlI think this song is most likely a conversation with himself, the sober self, talking to their destructive addicted self "I see nothing in your eyes, and the more I see the less I like, is it over yet? In my head", and how he says to himself "you gotta fight just to make it through", and then his addicted self says "cause I would be the death of you".
  • Sarah from RiI think it’s interesting to see everyone’s different interpretations on this. Our brains are wired to make connections wether we are listening and thinking of our own experiences or someone we may know. We all hear the exact same song but have so many different takes. I also think that’s why artists like to leave it at that. Without knowing what he really meant allows more people to relate to it based on what they think it means. Vs a narrow group of people based on what he wrote it for.
  • Penny from OhioBreath is my #1 Breaking Benjamin song!!
  • Chunk from OhioI thought it was about doing heroin
  • 8donner from Omaha, NeWell, from what I've read of the artist, he's a torture soul. I've loved his music for many years, and also love trying to figure out what's going on in his mind while he's writing. It's amazing how he can so therowly convey emotion without ever actually saying "this is what I'm taking about". I agree that it's open to interpreting, but where was he in his head as he was writing it. I've decided that he was looking in the mirror. For the stories sake, let's go with "one dark and dreary night while in the throws of his addiction". In that mirror, he sees his own empty eyes, but he also sees that that's not the person he wants to be. That other person is empty, self loathing, shamefully. "So sacrifice yourself, and let me have what's left." He wants to be more than what he sees in the mirror. If all he can get is the left overs, he can work with that. #themostimportantrelationshipinlifeistheoneyouhavewithyourself
  • Angel from ArizonaI think its about a couple fighting-
    abusive relationship with a narcissist lover.( My Interpenetration)

    I see nothing in your eyes, -( Narcs have this look after they reveal their true self. YEARS into the relationship)
    And the more I see the less I like.(YEP)
    Is it over yet, in my head? ( The narc won't stop verbally bashing their partner. Twisting words/ manipulation)
    I know nothing of your kind, (Narcs)
    And I won't reveal your evil mind. (You CANT figure out a narcissist mind)
    Is it over yet? I can't win. ( there is NO winning with a narcissist...There is no compromise, no solutions, no actual attempt at fixing anything EVER. They take no responsibility)

    I'm waiting, I'm praying, realize, start hating. ( waiting for them to be the person they was were, praying for changes, Realizing this is who they really are from the start, Hate them for it.
  • J. Weatherford from Texarkana,txFrom my own personal experience, "Breath" takes into account an addict's significant other, probably a wife whose husband is being overcome by a drug addiction (in my case methamphetamine) and hates what he has become, but will stop at nothing to free him from the vicious cycle. "I see nothing in your eyes, the more I see the less I like, is it over yet." Awesome work Ben...
  • Caleb from NevadaTaking into account what I've learned about Ben Burnley as a person, as well as his past, I can only assume that this song is about an internal conflict with himself regarding the suicide of his girlfriend, whom, coincidentally, is also the subject of "Diary Of Jane". Again, this is all my interpretation, but I feel that when Ben is singing the verses, he is mostly addressing himself, as if he is looking in the mirror while singing. Then, the choruses are more aimed toward his love.
  • Kat from Ne, OhSheesh people...Everything is open to interpetation, even to the best and or worst extreme. Ben leaves it to us and has said that in interviews. This is not brain surgery...it is what it is. (Sorry for the pun)
  • Nikki from Iron Mountain , Miforever in debt to your priceless advice why do people fight when they chat.any way I was wondering if anyone can tell me what ben wrote the song about, It meant something for me but it made me feel like how I felt about my father when I was a young girl. about sexual abuse get away please you have to fight just to make it through cause Ill be the death of you the hate but confused about love . this is hard but the part where I wont reveal your evil mind is something you carry to keep it shush because no one will beleive you Im 34 years old and have three childeren, parents dont realize what an impact they have on there childeren. and yes he left a whole where my heart should be. well this is out to ben burnley you have awesome vocals and I commend your band for being loveing fathers and yourself if you have a child, our fathers are our rolmodels for god what does that say about god , just cause you stick a chicken up your butt does not make you a chicken ,sorry I watched fight club recently well got to go breaking benamin's number 1 fan nikki
  • Madelein from Dallas, Txtell me what do you think about it ,because may be i am wrong, because even i like the rithm song,the lyrics in my opinion are a little bit scary, and have a satanic meaning, becuse when he said, i see nothing in your eyes, is for me means i see nothing in the jesus christ eyes, so sacrifice your self ,for me is obvious he is talking about jesus, in a evil way because you know that jesus was sacrified, and when he said you had a fight just make it through, is like saying that jesus allow all his suffering in the cross ,just for make it thruogh,when he do it because he want to please God and save us, because i will be the dead of you, for me thats means that for example jesus die for save us, from the dead i will be the dead of your is like he is saying anyways i will die,this will be all over soon for me means, the end of the world is near and i will (the evil)win the battle,put the salt in the open wound, for me he is saying to jesus christ put salt in your wounds of you sacrifice, on the cross ,beacuause you know that the salt cause pain in the wounds,and jesus have wounds when was sacrified, anyways may be i am wrong tell me youn opinion this is only what i think.
  • Robert from Los Angeles, CaMike, just because he wrote the song with one meaning doesnt mean people cant find their own. why do you want someone to tell you what to think? come up with your own interpretation. no one is right or wrong, just different.
  • Minh from Strongsville, Ohlol, everyone is posting all these deep insightful comments, and lolo says its about a slug. lmao i can totally see that. "pour salt into the open wound" but anyways yeah i love this song, catchy, awesome sound. anthony, i agree that you are looking deeper than the song really goes, but if you can see Christ under any surface, than thats cool too. yes i am Christian.
  • Lolo from Nashville, TnThe song is about a confrontation between a man and slug....the slug is at the front door and will not move...as slugs are slow....so if you pour salt on a slug it dies....listen tot he song again and tell me it's not about a damn slug....geeze can't you guys read songwriters minds....oh wait...you can...sorry....i digress...
  • Alayna from Somewhere, NjMike, I disagree with you. I was watching "Steven's Untitled Rock Show", and there was a guy on (don't remember his name) who was talking about how it was an honor to him when fans found meaning in his music. So even if Ben Burnley did only have one concept when writing it, who's to say someone else can't have another? Like Robert said, people listen to what they can relate to.
  • Mike from Falmouth, MaRobert with all due respect the song is about 1 concept which is the concept that Ben Burnley had in mind when he was writing the song. He had his own motivation for writing this song and that's where the song comes from. This is a fantastic song and is not an interpretation of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of you nor I. It's the work of 1 man: Ben Burnley.
  • Robert from Los Angeles, Cayou guys need to let it go. anothny has his own interpretation. who gives a rat's ass? meaning is in tne mind of the interpreter, as i have always said. when interpreting, one brings HIMSELF to the issue. this beliefs and experiences, an dforms an opinion based on what he has seen, done, experienced, or otherwise encountered. to say that a song has one meanig and only one is ignorant. you need to experience things from different perspectives to understand them. you need to look at the song from every angle and then interpret it. what happens is a list of different meanings, which is what we have here. as to the anti-christian thing, just do what makes you happy, not what is "hip". that's elementary, to do something because it's what's in. be yourself (great audioslave song by the way). i am a christian, but i dont see everything from that perspective. i've experienced some trhings that make me see things in a new light. relationship songs are not in any way limited to the abckstreet boys, or any band for that matter. people want to hear songs about their experiences, something they can relate to. relationships are a huge part of life, as humans are physical beings, in that they desire affection. for a band to produce a relationship song would be a good thing because it would evoke feelings that the listener could relate to and the band gains a new fan. that's how you incrrease your fan base. no one wants to hear about something they cant relate to. anyway, get over yourselves, let people have their own interpretations and if anyone wants to debate, as anthony has indicated ha does, let me know, i'd be glad to entertain yo from time to time. peace, soul, rock n' roll.
  • Brandon from Ware, MaAntony - I hate to say it but you are digging a grave man. I am a struggling christian, but ignoring the title so many lay claim to, I am a sensitive person.

    A song about a relationship is a deep thing. You stereotype that most relationships are bad. Maybe so, but you won't know that until you can psychoanalyze the writer of the song in person. Yeh?

    Sanctus Real writes about love and relationships and they are quite christian. Take a step out of your mind for a second and step into your heart.

    If this song means what you said to you then you likely relate in a manner to that, don't ya think?

    Either way.

    I think the song definitely holds an air of anger and melancholy. Its a feeling of a cold realization and then an outcry of both sadness and rage.

    He is upset because he is hurt so.

    Obvious pain but almost... rescinding upon that pain to bring up this self-reliant strength. Maybe an acceptance that it is over now because of what the target of the song has become.

  • Alayna from Somewhere, NjAnthony, I still don't understand where you're coming from. You said, "the music is just not meant to be interpreted. it is as its words read."

    Yet, in your first comment, you said, "this songs meaning is this.......realization of evil....ability to recognize evil that one has once succumb to and now wishes to avoid further entraptments.......the stuggle one must go through for redemption after being caught up in a destructive, evil, oft addicted lifestyle..............the emptyness one feels when evil has blackened their heart and the longing to feel its beauty and goodness again........the understanding one has to fight for their life now because they have blindly been caught up in an evil, self destructive lifestyle and continued self destruction will be the death of you..............heres some quotes to back my theory........."isee nothing in your(satans) eye, and the more i see the less i like......is it over yet(hell) in my head"........"i know nothing of your kind(evil)....and i wont reveal your evil mind"... (the man is battling the devil...and the war is only between the two of them....no need to turn this battle into a media circus by revealing the fight he is in is with the most powerfull force of evil ever to be known).........."you(devil) take the breathright out of me"......."and youve(the devil) left a hole where my heart should be"............."youve(anyone fighting their own demons) gotta fight just to make it through"........."cause I (speaking from the devils point of view) will be the death of you..................................this song is NOT about a love relationship...".

    Sounds to me like you just gave your own INTERPRETATION of the song, which, according to you, "is just not meant to be interpreted.". Try not to contradict yourself too much.

    In any case, you have broken down the song as a "realization of evil". I can see how that makes sense. Someone could do the same thing, however, arguing that it is about a type of relationship. They could add their own insights into the song as you have, and make as much, or more, of a convincing argument.

    Do you see what I'm trying to say?
  • Anthony from Sterling Heights, MiAlayna, no the backstreet boys arent juvinille. the music is just not meant to be interpreted. it is as its words read. A relationship is a worthy subject for any artist. I admit I was wrong with my generalizations.........Sarah, and do you also think LA is really, "the city of angels"?..................Trenton, I disagree with the very little meaning to their songs. And come on!!! its almost hip. No. i take that back. It is hip to be Anti-Christian. Not trying to attack. And if you re read, IAN threw the first deragatory in his, "WOW MAN" post.................................................. Also, just prodding for a debate with most of what i say. And then watching for the most fun to spar with. Canada=Liberal..could really care less. just a prod. I dont hate our 51st state. one of my favorite, if not my favorite band is from canada. Our Lady Peace..I love them.
  • Lolo Brown from Gertrude, Bahamasgod i love this song. it leaves me breathless every time, no pun intended, and its just like god. "is this tortured love sick thing over yet, have you taken enough out of me? or are still digging at me? anyways that what i got out of it. i love it.
  • Alayna from Somewhere, NjOkay. First off, I LOVE this song. Second, Anthony, I understand you have your own interpretation of this song. That's fine. I have a different one. Who really cares? It's what the song means to the listener. But I do have a problem with "i just think(hope) a band like breaking benjamin would have a better message than a relationship........relationship songs are for the backstreet boys." Umm... The way I understood that -correct me if I'm wrong- is that you are saying the Backstreet Boys are juvenile, and therefore relationship songs are juvenile as well. Many bands, not just boy bands, write about relationships. They are an important part in a lot of people's lives, and to say that the topic of relationships isn't a good enough message for Breaking Benjamin to be making is kind of like a derogatory statement to all the other bands that talk about relationships in their songs. Most people deal with relationships in their lives, and I don't believe that that is too juvenile a topic for any band, boy band or otherwise.
  • Sarah from La, CaI LOVE THIS SONG!!! Breaking Benjamin is the best band ever. And Anthony what in the world are you talking about "my theory". It's about a Relationship. Just Listen to the song and enjoy it. But whatever it's you own view of the song.
  • Scott from Woodbine, Gai think this song is about a guy outside of a relationship...he's in love with a girl who won't leave another guy no matter how bad he is to her..verses like "sacrifice yourself and let me have whats left" meaning take a chance and just leave him and be with me..He also repeatedtly asks "is it over yet?" and then "you take the breath right out of me" "you've gotta fight just to make it through" meaning you fight so hard just to get by in the relationship with him. "im waiting, im praying, Realize...start hating!" he's waiting and praying for you to realize you need to hate him and be with me...
    thats what i think...
  • Blake from Chico, CaThank you, Trenton for making sense. I would rather hear what the band says the song is about, post what the song is about to me, and read what other people think, and not "This is what the song is about, if you say otherwise, you're wrong." There's too much of that in the world already without adding to it.
  • Trenton from Flatwoods, Kythe truth is that the majority of breaking benjamin's songs have very little meaning. I personally think that this song is about a relationship, but who really cares?! The main reason that anyone listens to this song is that it's catchy and it has a good sound. By the way Anthony, i see u have developed a stereotype about anti-Christians and although i am a Christian myself, i have to say that attacking others with criticism is not the way to go about this.
  • Blake from Chico, Cawhat... the hell... is going on here? a guy (anthony) has a THEORY on what the song is about, and this whole time you guys just say, "it's about a relationship" because that's what the band says? The whole point of music is that it means different things to different people, so everyone sees a part of themselves in their favorite songs. That said, it's not okay for Anthony to raag on the Canadians. and wtf "because canada is so liberal and it's just getting worse?" come on!!! It's not the liberals who are ruining the country, it's the right wing people that can't admit they've made a @$#&-load of mistakes. what's so wrong about trying to save the @$#&ing world? if you don't like someone's theory, can you produce some actual evidence to the contrary? thank you. And yes, i am christian
  • Tom from Hershey, PaAnthony, I think you are reading way too much into it. Its just about falling in and out of love with someone. In this song it is about a man and a woman. That's it dude, its like , should I stay or should I go and all the feelings involved in that thought process. PS, this band rocks in concert (Hershey 2007)

    Tom, Hershey PA
  • Anthony from Sterling Heights, Mi"believe you me"?...youre making it hard on me to even talk to you. But come on Ian lets make a truce here...and Ill even start.. Youre "wow man" response was pretty disrepectfull. I didnt immediately jump to the devil. My interpretaion is thouroughly explained. Hell yea there are hicks down here...kid rock...lol...but i said that because canada is so liberal and getting worse. nothing about canadian hicks. I would of brought up the skill-less, lets fight, canadian hockey style if i was to speak of canadian hicks. thank your jesus for European Skill saving your sport and America Marketing it.....lol.....just fooling around ian...

    It sounds immature when you say i bring religion to every aspect of my life when you dont know me.

    i havent been to church in years....

    i just think(hope) a band like breaking benjamin would have a better message than a relationship........relationship songs are for the backstreet boys.
  • Ian from Saskatoon, Canadacmon think about this really? immediately jumping to the devil? little much dude and im not even gonna respond to the heard of that in canada because beleive you me theres alot of hicks down there not to mention.. and its kinda funny cause im not anti religious i just dont think to bring it into every aspect of my life
  • Anthony from Sterling Heights, MiHoly crap Ian!!! youve heard of the bible in Canada? Or did you just hear the cliche term of "bible thumping", on TV, and figured you try it out by plugging it in a conversation sometime. Very cunning indeed!

    Bud Light Presents....

    REAL MEN OF GENIUS.......Mr. Eww!! Christianity....God's yucky!.......You my friend..... know exactly when to "drop" a derogatory cliche anti-christian comment.......... You really dont know anything about the bible..yet alone what cliche means....But that doesnt mean you cant feel a little special when you say "Bible Thumper"...or "Holy Roller"....or "Bible Belt"...............Mr. Eww!! Christianity....God's yucky!
  • Ian from Saskatoon, Canadawow man could ya thump that bible a little harder? of course its about a relationship
  • Anthony from Sterling Heights, Mithis songs meaning is this.......realization of evil....ability to recognize evil that one has once succumb to and now wishes to avoid further entraptments.......the stuggle one must go through for redemption after being caught up in a destructive, evil, oft addicted lifestyle..............the emptyness one feels when evil has blackened their heart and the longing to feel its beauty and goodness again........the understanding one has to fight for their life now because they have blindly been caught up in an evil, self destructive lifestyle and continued self destruction will be the death of you..............heres some quotes to back my theory........."isee nothing in your(satans) eye, and the more i see the less i like......is it over yet(hell) in my head"........"i know nothing of your kind(evil)....and i wont reveal your evil mind"... (the man is battling the devil...and the war is only between the two of them....no need to turn this battle into a media circus by revealing the fight he is in is with the most powerfull force of evil ever to be known).........."you(devil) take the breathright out of me"......."and youve(the devil) left a hole where my heart should be"............."youve(anyone fighting their own demons) gotta fight just to make it through"........."cause I (speaking from the devils point of view) will be the death of you..................................this song is NOT about a love relationship...
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