Gin Blossoms guitarist Doug Hopkins wrote this about his old girlfriend, with whom he was attempting to reconcile. Hopkins had a lot of personal problems and struggled with alcohol abuse. When the band recorded the album, Hopkins was in bad shape, so they fired him. After this became a hit, he got even more depressed and committed suicide on December 5, 1993.
This was released as a single in July 1992 and flopped. When it was re-released in the summer of 1993 it became a hit.
Three different videos were shot before A&M Records approved one. The video became a MTV "Buzz Bin" item, propelling the band to stardom.
A version of this was included on their 1989 debut album, Dusted, on San Jacinto Records. It was one of many Gin Blossoms songs re-recorded for their later albums.
This was the first of five singles released from the album.
A live version was included on the single for "Found Out About You" in 1994.
The line "you can trust me not to think" was originally "you can trust me not to drink." Gin Blossoms vocalist Robin Wilson, who was tired of singing about drinking, asked Hopkins if he could change it.
Jim from Ocean Grove, NjDoug Hopkins WAS Gin Blossoms. He founded this group in Tempe after graduating from Arizona State. He was lead guitarist and chief songwriter. Gin Blossoms had an original sound, a raw energy. From 1989 to 1992 they were great. Later, without Doug they sucked. Most people discovered this song in 1993. It was on the album New Miserable Experience, released in 1992. Doug wrote the best songs on that album: "Hey jealousy", "Found out about you", "Lost horizons" etc. Doug was an alcoholic (note name of band). About to release the album (under pressure from the record company), his band mates fire Doug. He gets a very raw deal for his songs. He is not credited on the album except as songwriter (it says "Gin Blossoms are...5 names, no Doug). The group hires another guitarist and they tour playing Doug's songs to fame and fortune starting in 1993 (like "Beach Boys" without Brian). And then Doug kills himself. The song begins by Doug admitting he's in no shape for driving tonight. The next stanza had the lyric "you can trust me not to drink" which the brainless lead singer changed to "think". He accepts the responsibility for blowing the relationship years ago, but is hoping to start over fresh (with ex-girlfriend Kathy). He is saying that he knows he is an alcoholic, but maybe if she takes him back he can sober up. The song is a plea for the girl, but also for help. Probably Doug knew that Kathy was his last hope. Look what his band mates did: instead of sticking by Doug and getting him into rehab, they fire him. His "good buddies" end up rich. Doug ends up dead (way too young).
Linda from KyI love this song but think its the saddest rock song ever. Now I know why. Hate that the writer committed suicide. He wrote from his heart.
Michael from Montreal,que., QcA song that brings back memories of a less complicated time, but also a time fraught with anxiety and despair. A bittersweet time time in my life if there ever was one. I do enjoy listening to this song though. It's funny how memory works. I seem to only remember the good times when I hear that song. I'm in a much better place now and have a great woman to thank for that. Like the late '60's of a generation before me the early '90's of my generation were a turning point as far as music goes. I lived it. Like San Francisco was the place to be in 1967... Seattle was the place to be in 1993. And believe me, it was!
Willie from Scottsdale, AzI heard this song in 1991 at Long Wong's on Mill Avenue. It didn't really get a huge response, so I was quite surprised when it blew up a year later. Who knew?
Brian from Boston, MaWhen this song first came out I really was not that fimiliar with it. A couple years latter I realy heard it or at least listened to it for the first time.This is great rock and roll.This whole album is great.You know at the time this song came out "alternative" music was popular wich sounds like a contradiction.Anyway everyone was talking about how great Nirvana was.I think Doug Hopkins was a better songwriter.I realize few will agree with me on this point but I don't care.I wonder how many people really were fans of Nirvana and how many were just caught up in the hype and were just going along for the ride least they be labled unhip.I was never a big fan of grunge music.I liked some of Pearl jams' songs who were much better than Nirvana but that's about all.My point here is I think the Gin Blossoms were underated.It is amazing though how music changed in such a short period of time in the early 90's.In the 80's bands not all acts but most bands were what we now call hair bands.The music they played was essentially all the same.It was mostly just party music with some power ballads thrown in.I think we can all admit to some point that we liked some of this.The problem however was fact that every band sounded alike and there were so many of them.The songs were loud fast and sang about partying and girls.All of this along with the make up and hairspray was just too much for too long.U2 was really the only popular band band during this period that was not just fluff.When Nirvana came along there was nothing like them before.They were the polar opposite of the hair bands.This is why I think they were so popular.I think it was inevitable that a new or different sound aside from all that hair band stuff come along.Nirvana just happened to be at the right place at the right time.I liked a lot of the 90's music though and the Gin Blossoms are among my favorite from that time.I realize I might sound like an old man but I really don't care for the music of today.I really can't name one band I listen too that has a song on the charts.
Adam from Pomona, CaI wanted to cry when I learned what happened to Doug. I first heard this song when I was 9 or 10 and it's stuck with me since. Why is it that sometimes the people with the biggest hearts meet the worst ends? Only God can know. I hope to see Doug in heaven.
Aaron from Houston, Txwow this has been a favorite for years.. didnt know thats what happened.. i feel for the guy.. we've all been in a similar situation at one time or another
Benjamin from Belchertown, MaDoug was great for guitar. The song has a great deal of meaning. I feel for the guy. "If I hadn't blown the whole thing years ago, I might be here with you." He wanted reconcilation with his girlfriend. When the song flopped and then became a hit it was just the last straw. It's a great song. Gin Blossoms rock. RIP Doug.
Miriam from Welland, OnGreat song. My boyfriend and I recently realized we didn't have a song, and chose this one because it suits us so well. I didn't realize there was such a tragic story behind it.
Joe from Middleville, MiOne of the best songs of all time. Rest in peace, Doug. "With a little luck, one night, we'll drink together in a different light..."
Clubber Lange from Ocean Gate, NjYou cant leave a radio on for 10 minutes without hearin this song...Thats gotta say something...
Lexi from Lansing, KsI LOVE the part, "Tomorrow we can drive around this town and let the cops chase us around".
John from Conover, NcPersonally, I think Gin Blossoms is the best band ever. If there was one 90s' song on the Earth, this would be it.
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Stacy from Evansville, InThis song came on the radio when i was 17 and had just broken up with an awful boyfriend and put my mother through hell. My mom was in the room and heard the line "If you don't excpect too much from me, you might not be let down" and my mom and me just looked at each other and laughed. Cause that pretty much summed up the best I could hope for in a boyfriend at the time. It was funny.
Angela from Birmingham, AlThe song is great, but everytime I hear it I get the extremely sad realization that indeed the past can't be changed and that nothing can really take its place.
Liz from Halifax, CanadaThe only song in the whole wide world that I can listen to on repeat and never get tired of it. Ever since Buzz Bin came out when I was only about 9.
Pete from Nowra, AustraliaAlison road also another great song ...track it down
Angela West from Tomball, TxI love the Gin Blossoms & they always take me back to the puppy loves of when I was in high school! Miss those days & wish they played the Gin Blossoms more!
Eloise from London, England"Cos all I want's to be with you, and feel like I matter too".....O my good God Almighty, every time I hear that line it makes me feel like I'm back in a relationship where I love the guy more than he loves me and I've screwed everything up and there's nothing left I can do about it. This is a great, heartfelt song and it's really sad Doug committed suicidestill feeling that way.
Taylor from Austin, TxAwesome song, but why aren't Gin Blossom songs shown at the song selecting screen? Anyway, AWESOME SONG! I could have this on "repeat" for hours and not get tired of it. Later!
Robert from Chicago, IlThis song is so great. I live in the past, And can't get over an ex-girlfriend. I wish I could go back in time and erase all my demons, But I cannot. So this is now one of those songs you play on the jukebox at the bar and toast to the good days.
Nick from Arlington Heights, IlThe name "Gin Blossoms" refer to the broken capillaries old drunks get on the end of their nose that give it a red appearance
Pat from Philly, PaThe line "You can trust me not to drink" was changed to "You can trust me not to think" before the song was recorder because the band thought they wrote too much about drinking.
Heather from Mead, Nethis song is one of the best songs ever. i love the part when he says "And you know it might not be that bad You were the best I ever had if I hadn't blown the whole thing years ago I might not be alone." and "Cos all I really want's to be with you And feel like I matter too If I didn't blow the whole thing years ago I might be here with you" its just an awesome song.