Album: Love.Angel.Music.Baby (2005)
Charted: 11 13


  • This song is about Gwen Stefani's ex-boyfriend and No Doubt bandmate, Tony Kanal. They dated for eight years before breaking up because Kanal needed "space." The song is about how both of them moved on and how through the ups and downs, over the years, they became really good friends. Stefani found the "love of her life," Gavin Rossdale, whom she married in 2002, so she and Kanal were "cool" as friends. He later married the actress Erin Lokitz; Stefani and Rossdale divorced in 2015. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Christi - Atlanta, GA
  • The lyrics mention Harbor Boulevard, which is located in Fullerton California where Stefani attended California State University Fullerton. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Noelle - Fullerton, CA
  • Stefani wrote this with Dallas Austin, who has written hits for TLC ("Creep," "Unpretty") and Madonna ("Secret").
  • The music video, directed by Sophie Muller, was shot in Lake Como, Italy, and depicts Stefani's "cool" relationship with her ex-boyfriend, played by Spanish actor Daniel Gonzalez. Tony Kanal's then-girlfriend and future wife, Erin Lokitz, plays Gonzalez's current girlfriend.

Comments: 19

  • Tony from Los AngelesI think you're all wrong... Do you not see the way dude keeps pushing off her advances?

    I really think this is about her and Gavin Rossdale. Rossdale probably didn't give her anything sexually and she finally found out why... Dude is gay or likes ts over women. She finally realized and came to terms with it, kept her mouth shut, and they're cool...
  • Constance from Dallas, TxThe song is one of the best songs written in modern day time. The music is great to. The lyrics and the music just has the essence of nostalgia remember a former lover. It really hits home for me and my ex that I was engaged to. We were together for 7 years. However in my case I don't know if we can be friends until he moves on. I have moved on with my life as a healthy single woman. I can see this song being re made by another artist in the future. However it wouldn't be right because the song is so specific to Gwen's real life situation that everyone is aware of.
  • Laura from London, EnglandUm scuse me....BRUNETTE Gwen. Yep! You look MUCH better with what God gave you. :-D
  • Lefty_2ndbaseman from Chicago, IlI love the style of this song, it has such an '80s retro sound to it (Gwen is heavily influenced by that era), it sounds like it could have easily been a huge hit in 1985!
  • Constance from Dallas, Txamazing song reminds of my ex who i'm still friends with and who i'll always love!
  • Laura from London, EnglandLuke from Manchester = Yes! Your right! lol
    Also, Gwen DOES look better brunette because it's her natural hair colour. People always look best with what is natural.
    A.J from Chicago = People do sometimes make mistakes and typos you know! Grow up!
  • Terr from Augusta, Gait might be that alot of songs remind me of richard, but i've moved on and so has he, and this video, this song, these lyrics are so much about us. all the memories and passion and love, im happy for him but not really. who doesnt want there frist love back? one day.... I LOVE this song
  • Luke from Manchester, EnglandKristen and Francine - Gwen doesn't lookn at this so stop being retards
  • Grace from Fairfax Station, VaI love this song, it's so sweet and romantic :-) The only part I don't like is when she repeats "cool" over and over again and adds like "ooh, ooh" too it :-P Not good.
  • Caitlin from Upper Township, NjOh my god! This is one of the best songs Gwen has ever written! Gwen is just simply the coolest, funkiest, most unique person on the face of the earth. She is fearless in her fashion and music!
  • Kristen from Winslow, NjMy friend Francine thinks, who is a HUUUGE fan or Gwen, thinks that she looks alot better with blonde hair!!!!!!!!!she says U ROCK GWEN KEEP IT BLONDE!
  • A.j. from Chicago, IlThis song's in the trailer for the new Adam Sandler movie Click.

    And who just said "burnett" instead of "brunette"? LMAO
  • Robert from AucklandSounds like it's based on 'Total Control' by the Motels to me ....
  • Ash from Perth, Australiai'm surprised how much i like this song; i've never really been into pop but this song is my guilty pleasure
  • Chelsey from Ocean Shores, WaGwen stefani is a great singer and I love all of her songs. I understand completly I have read all the comments and I am glad nobody hates the song so far I hang with my xb all the time and it's hard to try to get him back with his preppy girlfriend evry where
  • Andrew from West Covina, CaI had no idea that Gwen was the burnett in the video! She looks better as a burnett. I don't know if it's just me, but Gwen doesn't look good being bleach blonde? This song is so sad and yet makes me happy. My favorite line is when she mentions her fans "...Look at all the kids have grown up..." And it was just yesterday that I saw my first gwen concert solo at the Anaheim Pond! Can't wait to see ND again! NO Doubt Rocks FOREVER!
  • Lawrence from Singaporelol, can I start the criticism
  • Christi from Leesburg, Gai lve this song. i want just this song from the cd i have a ex b/f we were friends but now him and my ex friend date but we talk sometimes and me and chick are cool some what.
  • Sabrina from Montreal, CanadaThis song is rlly COOL!! lol

    By the way, she looks so much prettier with brown hair:)
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