Big Girls Don't Cry

Album: The Dutchess (2006)
Charted: 2 1


  • This song evokes the feelings of breaking up with someone and remembering what they were like. Fergie sings about shelter and clarity - she needs some time to figure out what it is she wants and needs. Although she is mature and grown up, she still feels like a child, especially when she is alone and scared. She will miss the person that left, but her tears are not just for her, but also for him. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Amber - Mocksville, NC
  • When this hit #1 in the US, it gave Fergie three chart-toppers from The Dutchess. The last female solo artist to do that was Christina Aguilera with her 1999 self-titled first album.
  • Fergie performed this at the "Concert for Diana" in 2007. She dedicated the song to the memory of Princess Diana. >>
    Suggestion credit:
    Bertrand - Paris, France
  • On iTunes, this was the most-downloaded song of 2007. Gwen Stefani's "The Sweet Escape " was second, and "Hey There Delilah" by Plain White T's was third.
  • In an interview with AOL, Fergie said that this song was written before she joined The Black Eyed Peas and that it's about independence. She also said that all the songs on The Dutchess are true stories.
  • According to Nielsen BDS, which monitors airplay, "Big Girls Don't Cry" was the most-played song on American radio in 2007. Fergie was the top artist for digital sales that year with about 7.5 million. This song was #3 on the year-end digital sales chart, behind "Hey There Delilah" and "Crank That (Soulja Boy)."
  • The accompanying music video for the song was directed by Anthony Mandler. The clip depicts a turbulent relationship between Fergie and her love interest, portrayed by actor Milo Ventimiglia (Lost, This Is Us). The Black Eyed Peas star was inexperienced at the time in filming raunchy love scenes, so she instructed her co-star to take the lead. She recalled to the US news show Entertainment Tonight:

    "I just had to tell him, like, 'Please help me with this. I wanna just try to be in the moment, if you could help me. I don't wanna be thinking about where's the light and where's the camera because I'll just completely be hidden under hair.'"

    Fergie added Milo was a "great" teacher, and once she got into the swing of things on the day, she had "super fun."

Comments: 8

  • Emmy from Bellville, OnSaddest song ever.
  • Steve from Whittier, CaFergie usually samples but this is her own song, isn't it (I mean, not borrowed from another or a remake of a much much older like her collaboration with legendary samba-meister Sergio Mendes on the latter's mid 1960s "Mas Que Nada")...such sly stuff here: "play with my self.."
  • Lori from Alexandria, VaNice song with an enticing video. The video does, however, take some artistic license departures from the lyrics. In the song, the narrator's lover is taking a flight back to his hometown; the video shows her leaving him in a 1969 Mustang (I'd vote for the old Ford, rather than an airplane, any day of the week!). The narrator also says that her struggle "has nothing to do with" her love interest, but the video suggests that she moves on because of his gangster connections and illegal drug use.
  • Jeff from Boston, MaBy far the most musically interesting of Fergie's big hits. But I find the contrast jarring between the luscious sweetness of the verses and the screaming of the chorus, which seems like an attempt to project some sort of pseudo-feminist strength on what is essentially an admission of weakness. Also, I think the lyrics send a dubious message about relationships. The whole concept of "finding yourself" is grossly overhyped by our culture. If you find someone wonderful you can't just assume that they will be willing to wait around forever while you get your act together.

    It will be interesting to see whether people still find Fergie's music compelling when she is past the age of being a sex object. She reminds me very much of Nancy Sinatra in that way.
  • Natasha from Oklahoma City, Okthis song and the other two listed above were all over the radio constantly which is common with new songs but why wasnt this played so much til like spring even tho it came out the year before that? this song still gets played alot but not like every 1 hour like it was last summer. and i have to agree with Carrie from Milford. i cant stand her other stuff. "Clumsy" only is marginally good and just because it has her singing in it instead of attempting to rap.
  • Ashlynne from Candor, NcI'm usally a country girl but I like this song!
  • Linda from OudenaardeMilo Ventimiglia plays her boyfriend in the video of Big Girls Don't Cry.
  • Carrie from Milford, OhThis is the only Fergie song that I like, that doesn't have complete sh*t lyrics.
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