Difficult Love

Album: Do That Again (2026)
Charted: 97
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Songfacts®:

  • "Difficult Love" is a song about being fully aware that a relationship is hard work, but leaning into it anyway. Malcolm Todd doesn't romanticize the romance at the center of the track - he knows exactly why it shouldn't work. But the friction has become the draw. Love, in this case, isn't blind so much as stubborn.
  • Todd co-wrote and co-produced the track with three of his closest collaborators: Charlie Ziman, Jonah Cochran and Matthew Castellanos.

    Ziman has been in Todd's orbit since high school, when the pair started writing and producing songs together during their senior year, sessions that eventually became Todd's 2022 debut EP, Demos Before Prom. By the time of "Difficult Love" he was pulling double duty as drummer in Todd's live band.

    Cochran, another regular touring partner, plays keys and guitar on the road.

    Castellanos is a filmmaker and songwriter whose resumé includes Steve Lacy's "Bad Habit," a guitar-driven alt-R&B hit that helped define the sonic lane Todd occupies.
  • Todd recorded "Difficult Love" for his second album, Do That Again, during six months of sessions split between Electric Lady Studios in New York and Chaplin Recording Studios in Los Angeles. The album title and this song are really two versions of the same idea. Do That Again suggests repetition; "Difficult Love" explains why someone would keep repeating a mistake in the first place.
  • The song continues the theme of emotional pain that runs through Todd's catalog: "Earrings" explores the paralysis of leaving things unsaid, "Sweet Boy" drifts through stalled ambition, "Chest Pain (I Love)" lingers on the ache of absence, and "I Saw Your Face" wrestles with the guilt of ending a relationship. "Difficult Love" pushes that story forward. Rather than mourning the past or justifying a breakup, Todd admits he's willingly stepping back into a relationship whose ending he can already predict.
  • Todd has never said who inspired the song, but fans have speculated that it draws on his relationship with a girl named Natalia, who appeared to be his girlfriend for a significant stretch of his early rise. Online fan discussions noted that the couple seemed to part ways around the middle of 2025, while Todd's bandmates continued to follow her, suggesting the split remained amicable. If that interpretation is correct, Do That Again, recorded in the months that followed, functions as a post-breakup album, with "Difficult Love" offering its clearest portrait of a relationship that was difficult to sustain and even harder to leave behind.

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